Is it normal that whenever my bf is busy i feel bad about doing things without him?

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for example, he's been with friends and we haven't talked that much so I feel guilty if I do things like seeing other friends, I mean, even getting dressed or getting my hair done makes me feel bad, like i'm doing too much effort not worthy.... or something like that.
It's true that in the past he has made me feel bad for spending time with friends instead of him...
okay guess it's not normal but
has someone else been thru that? guess i need advice :(

Later I can get distracted and forget about that feeling but as soon as he texts me I feel the whole guilt that has piled up :c

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    There's a whiff of emotional manipulation here. There's also the suggestion that you don't feel you deserve him, and that you should be just hanging around waiting to hear from him.

    None of that is healthy. A positive relationship doesn't involve the couple being joined at the hip, and nor does it involve either party being constantly at the beck and call of the other.

    You have the right to your own life away from him, just as he has the right to spend time with others. Since you're in a relationship, you also both have the right to expect that the other will want to spend time together. Negotiating the balance between those two can be difficult, particularly if one of the people is much more needy and insecure than the other. Sometimes it's possible to work out something that's satisfactory for both, and sometimes it isn't.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Your so called boyfriend sounds like a controlling piece of shit!

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  • Asatchi
    4 years ago

    It's called codependent

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  • SwickDinging
    4 years ago

    Is there any other behaviour like this? What's he like when you are with him?

    You know this isn't normal. You have the right to spend time with friends and go for a haircut.

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