Is it normal the main reason i avoid relationships is

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The main/only reason I avoid entering a relationship is because if I do I have to have sex with the guy.
I am always attracted to a guy i'm into but I don't actually in real life want to be penetrated by a man.
Maybe I am just scared but now I am embarrassed too about being a virgin in my age. I have distanced myself from so many guys as soon as they started talking about taking our relationship to the next level. I got so much anxiety and felt violated. I could not deal with it. Now I have stopped dating because this feeling never stops coming but I still get crushes if I meet someone by chance. At least I think they are crushes but possibly its just attachment because I dont attach to many people but if I come across a person whom I feel understood and seen by and whom fits what I imagine to be a cool person because they remind me of a fictional character I like I get super attached and cant be without them and scared they will abandon me because then what will I do with life

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  • Sanara
    2 years ago

    I suggest you go an asexual dating site or write on a dating profile that you're asexual and want romance but no sex. That should single out all the guys that wont accept relationship without sex. Most likely some will be left, but fewer. There are men that are asexual too, but they are naturally much rarer than men that are sexual. Maybe even some of the ones that have sexual feelings still can accept and respect their girlfriend dont want sex.

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    • Cuntsiclestick
      2 years ago

      She's probably better off on an asexual dating site. Back when I used dating sites, I stated on my profile that I was virgin and didn't want to rush into sex, yet nobody read that part and just sent me sexual messages anyway. For some reason it was always the men who identified as straight and the women who identified as lesbian that would completely disregard my profile. XD

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        2 years ago

        Unfortunately no asexual dating sites in my country

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        • hauntedbysandwiches
          2 years ago

          What country?

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            2 years ago

            I live in Scandinavian country

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            • hauntedbysandwiches
              2 years ago

              I'm pretty sure you have okcupid and all the dating sites available in your country.. surely they're not banned lol. Just go on one and select asexual. I think most have options to search that way now

              Also you answer questions about sex and can select options. example: Sex is important to me

              You can put no it's not and then select if someone answers yes it's important, that's a deal breaker then it'll decrease your match percentage a lot. It's one of if not the best site I've personally used.

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  • bbrown95
    2 years ago

    Agreed with the others here about trying asexual dating sites.

    There is also no shame in being a virgin at any age, by the way! Whether you choose to have sex or not is your own personal choice and also nobody else's business.

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  • Tinybird
    2 years ago

    just be grateful you meet people you have crushes on. I have never even met a person I have a crush on in real life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      That must be comfortable though crushes are kinda annoying sometimes because you think of them so much but I get it because sometimes its boring not to have one

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      • Tinybird
        2 years ago

        what I mean is I only get crushes on people I have no chance of ever meeting, like fictional characters, or North Korean soldiers, or celebrities etc.

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