Is it normal the more i am around my family, the less comfortable i am around them?

Family is highly overrated.

Maybe some families are wonderful groups of loving, steadfastly mutually-supportive, positive people, but don't believe half of what you see in social media. Many families are full of people who loathe and can barely tolerate each other.

It's also the case that many families have a designated victim, who everyone picks on because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Your relatives say the shit they do, and you can't change that. The only thing you can do is change how you choose to react to what they say and do. If one of your relatives believes that he or she is winning more at life than you are, then you can either accept that criticism, or you can recognise that it's just their opinion and it's based on what you believe to be a faulty view of what's most important in life.

Fundamentally, you have a simple choice: either learn to accept that your relatives are the people they are, or avoid having to deal with them by keeping some distance between you and them.

You are obviously different from your family. That's normal. We are not clones of our parents or family. Relax and be YOU.