Is it normal this happened and should i ask my friend how he feels now

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I get called that I am too naive by people who know me. My friend is very similar. He's in a long distance relationship now with someone hes never met because they live in different countries.
I can't make it work with most guys because i'm autistic, anxiety, depressive episodes. It is because I like to choose guys who are little like myself because is interesting.
My friend gets me and respects me and is a similar person. I would like to date him really but things are weird now.

We've met multiple times even tho we have a distance because at least we live in the same country only 3 hours apart and ive even met his mom so yeah.

We've talked about dating several times and as late as 2020. I wasn't so present and then he said something embarrassing about nudes which caused him to distance himself after. When we spoke again he was in his current internet "relationship". I do not know how he feels right now. It is a bit confusing not to know how he feels. I feel sometimes I should ask because I want to but I dont know how should I ask. Its random that we were planning a date and then he was dating someone online a few weeks later and I dont thinkk online relationships are real but I guess morally its best to respect it and all that but im quite curious of having the real talk and what happened because if really he has no romantic emotion for me anymore then yes it would insult me that it would be because of a random girl on the internet, but yes I would feel good knowing so I can drop it...

I was distant but I should explain it I was in bad place and I think maybe you tell someone if plans change but thats just me so what do you think guys should I bring it up.,,,for clarity.,,,

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  • Shackleford96
    2 years ago

    Yeah, I think you should talk to him. To me, online relationships don't count as much as real life relationships. There are exceptions, of course. You guys should still try to hang out, who knows, maybe you will grow close again and he will decide to choose you over a online relationship with someone he's never met. It doesn't even have to have any weight to it, just tell him you want to meet up and spend time together. If you guys like each other, it will progress from there.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Ok I talk to him and he told me he wasnt sure how I feel back then and that the problem is we are shy so we werent clear enough about our feelings then he made sad ":(" emoji about it. I told him we should see each other soon and he said he misses seeing me so we shoulde. He logged off after that so I dont know how he took the conversation but he wants to see me so we will plan when and then we will see I guess

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      • Shackleford96
        2 years ago

        I think that's a good sign that he wants to see you again. It kind of sounds like he wanted to take things further with you, but just didn't know how you felt about him. Good luck with your next meet up, and again don't put too much weight to it. Just be yourself and have fun together. That's the most important thing is to not put too much expectations on it.

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