Is it normal to be a loner but hate people?

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Okay I'm tired of being a loner but at the same time do I have to deal with people? I want to make friends, but good friends, friends that are real and that group of friends that I always do something with. I have friends but here and there, so when we hang out its like a one on one situation and its not fun anymore. The only time I had a group of friends was in college, the best times. Now that we all graduated and went back home, we're all scattered so its not the same. Im back home, alone, bored, and almost depressed. Its had to make friends because of a few reasons. One, I'm just awkward so people sense that right away and they leave, two, I have no foundation to make friends since when Im not at home, Im usually doing errands, three, I simply dont like them and simply dont wanna be friends with them. I did have a bf, who I would rather be with but sometimes I just wanted to do my own thing and hang out with friends so now that Im single, heres my chance to make friends but its so freaken hard.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Making friends after college is hard. Focus on your interests and join community clubs and force yourself out there. Take a genuine interest in the people that you meet and they will love you for it.

    Just don't compensate with online relationships as the other comments illustrate. They are a fraction of the value of real friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I've been trying to do this but sometimes my first reason happens or the third one. I just don't have the same capability as others when it comes to making friends easily. Its annoying because I'm young, healthy, I should be having fun right now and making the best of it, but I'm not. However, I am going to give it another chance...like you said, I have to put myself out there. Although I'm not used to doing that, I'm not happy with being alone so I have to make the sacrifice. What will def help is sharing the same passions and interests. I noticed that thats a big factor, especially when you know what you want, like, and know who you are. Thanks for this.

      Oh and yes I know, lol although I appreciate their friendship, its not what I'm looking for.

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        Read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'. Helped my social life a ton. Good luck.

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    • Azaman
      7 years ago

      I'll be YOUR friend too damnit

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  • Kookulainamus
    7 years ago

    Get IIN Gold. It's not excessively expensive and you can talk privately to whoever makes comments that you find interesting. I find very few IINers make positive role models. But, many people here are interesting in irrational freakish ways. I consider IIN the best social zoo on the internet.

    As they say, "Social artistry is the vitamin for life."

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  • AlcoholMixedWithValerian
    7 years ago

    Im also a loner, but im looking for friends, please contact me if interested.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Sounds like what you want is unrealistic. You want really great friends and apparently there supposed to just come knock on your door and announce they are there then demonstrate how awesome of a friend they will be. Hint: This is not going to happen.

    If you want friends you'll have to take some chances and put yourself out there. Chances are more often than not it won't work out but theres really no other path. Good luck.

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  • BookLover
    7 years ago

    I'll be your friend if you want. Just message me if you want to talk more.

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    I'll be your friend. :)

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