Is it normal to be afraid to grow up/want to be alone for the rest of your life

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I'm scared that if I start to do more adult things in life like working hard, school, having a girlfriend, and raising a family, my life is over. I feel like any woman I'm with will try to rid everything I find fun and interesting. I honestly don't find alot of the things adults care about interesting. I love money for the fact that I can buy clothes, video games, DVD's, comic/manga books, hangout, and do other things that I like. Many adults love talking about money, work, and future plans. I don't care for that stuff, I'm just a dreamer. I let whatever will be be, I don't plan as much as adults. Adulthood seems like it's all worries and business until the day you die. I like worrying about myself. I rather watch Disney movies instead of "Law and Order". I rather read Anime books instead of relationship guide books. It's like I just want to be rich and be me, I don't want another person intruding on my life. Is this normal? I'm 21, btw.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Reminds me of The Catcher in the Rye.

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    A 21 year old who does nothing but sit around watching Law and Order and reading comics isn't called a "dreamer", they're called a "loser". A dreamer is someone that strives for growth and betterment through idealistic means. You're just being a lazy coward. If you're content with that, then I guess that's fine, but don't romanticize your lethargy. I take issue with the aggressive goal-obsessed structure of the world too, but not because it's inconvenient to my desire to sit on my ass and do absolutely jackshit.

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  • Enigmatic
    12 years ago

    I think everyone matures at their own rate and some day you'll think differently.

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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    I am a 23 year old female who has my own apartment and pays my own bills BUT i still enjoy mac and cheese instead of steak and I watch anime and prefer kids movies over any sort of action flick or soap opera.

    I also live with my BF who plays Wow and goes to midnight releases at gamestop and comic cons etc..

    You have a huge misconception that when you start dating, women will take your money and take away what you love and pop out kids. NO WAY! A girlfriend enhances your life and becomes like your other half (as long as you don't go for the wrong type) It's called compatibility, you have to find chicks that love what you love. It's not that hard just look in places that YOU enjoy going too.

    Also you have a misconception about adults. I've met 50 year olds that were much less mature than myself. By mature I don't mean talking about finances and work, I mean they let their emotions control them and do crap without thinking. You need to stop looking at everything so black and white. Some people, no matter what age, enjoy discussing politics and some enjoy discussing the badassness of Fett vs. Solo.

    Stop being so dang naive.

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  • ANDYTREK247
    11 years ago

    I to pay my own bills and love going to the movies on my own or with mates and love the new gadgets out .And have stayed out late for the new games out for xbox360 a girl only enhance your world but she musted love the same things you like for this partnership to work.Relationships are a 50/50 commitment in all departments ...?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Normal. You should do what makes you happy. Though people may judge you for it, you should just enjoy life the way you want to. Like Peter Pan :)

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  • squirrelgirl
    12 years ago

    I'm more or less the same way, but I don't know if it's normal or not because I'm this way due to my mental health issues.

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  • Rufus
    12 years ago

    The OP is just like me, and he should do what I did:

    Move. Don't tell anyone. don't let anyone see you packing. Move to a town far away, where nobody knows who you are. Then nobody will have expectations for you. Pressure off.

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    Oh the Peter Pan syndrome.
    I keep telling my kids to never grow up, but every year they get one year older.

    Stay young for as long as you can, because you're an adult for even longer.

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