Is it normal to be afraid to take birth control bc i'm afraid to gain weight?

At risk of being too blunt:

You seem very, very insecure about your weight and that is the biggest issue here. It isn't in any way normal to worry that much about gaining such a small amount of weight, especially if it's as little as 5 pounds. I don't know much about eating disorders, but there are people here who do who can probably help you more if they see this. You should talk to someone seriously about your weight insecurity, be it your boyfriend or a close friend or a family member or a therapist. You don't have to be thin to have an eating disorder and there is no shame in having one, but talking about it to someone could start you on a road to feeling much more comfortable with your body.

EDIT: If you don't mind me asking, how much do you weigh? I'm willing to bet you're in much better shape than you think you are.

I think your boyfriend is a selfish jerk who doesn't want to wear condoms anymore! There's nothing wrong with being 120 pounds and wanting to stay at that weight. It is your body after all. Birth control pills have more side effects than just weight gain. If you smoke cigarettes birth control can cause a stroke especially after you turn thirty.

You don't sound fat at all to me. Without knowing your height I can't begin to comment on your weight but if you want to shed some dead weight get rid of that selfish boyfriend of yours. It's your body. Sex doesn't have to be part of a relationship before marriage.

In my opinion I think that you should go on a regular dieand eat healthier and do lots of excersizes that will help you loose weight.And also drink alots of water.That's what I do to lose weight.

no, who cares if you gain, stop worrying about your weight, most people gain 70 lbs a year, its normal so what?

That crossed my mind when I thought about taking the pill but it didn't scared me out.

Luckily no change.

You won't gain like twenty pounds, at most you'll gain about five if you gain any at all. I've been on bc for about two years and I haven't noticed a significant difference in my weight.

The pill might make you gain weight; pregnancy will definitely make you gain weight. It doesn't seem like a smart trade-off to me, especially as the pill is by far the most reliable option.

If you don't want to take the pill because of the hormonal changes it can put you through or because you need to take precautions against infections (not to say you do, but if it's a new relationship, you need to think about that until you've both been tested), that's pretty normal. Not wanting to take it because of the possibility of a few pounds, though, sounds a little alarming to me. I'm not sure it's healthy to have an intense fear of possible minor weight gain.

It doesn't sound immature so much as it sounds like a nascent eating disorder -- although I hasten to add that no one can diagnose you online, least of all some chick on IIN. :)

One thing to keep in mind: If you take the pill and find you just can't take what it's doing to you physically or psychologically, you can always stop. You might find that feeling more relaxed about more reliable birth control is worth any anxiety about a possible pound or two.