Is it normal to be annoyed with another man put his hand around my wife's waist

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My wife got married when she was young and then divorced a few years ago and then we started dating and recently got married. So she is somewhat naive when it comes to men and their intentions as she missed out on a lot of dating in her 20s and early 30s.

We have a large number of friends we met through a church group. Some of the people in the church group are socially awkward and are generally considered to be weirdos/losers. However, we try to be nice and inclusive and invite everyone to events. Unfortunately, some men seem to mistake being nice with being interested.

There is one guy who is a complete dork and asked out practically all of the attractive girls in the group, including my wife, and was rejected by all of them. He eventually found a fat girl on Match.com who was as desperate as he is and they got married last year and had a child late last year.

My wife and I were at a party yesterday and that dork was there with his wife. When the dork and his wife were about to leave, my wife went over to say goodbye. I noticed that the dork was standing next to his wife and then put his hand around my wife's waist and kept it there for like 20-30 seconds, and it wasn't for a photo being taken. He also apparently told my wife several times that she looked very pretty.

My wife didn't think that it was a big deal that he put his hand around her waist because she thinks he's a friend and thinks it was innocent and doesn't mean anything. However, I feel differently and think that it was very inappropriate and far too intimate to do to someone else's wife. I almost feel like an ass-whipping is deserved... (And no, my wife is not attracted to him and thinks he is disgusting.)

Is it normal to be annoyed with another man put his hand around my wife's waist?

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  • uncuthungguy
    7 years ago

    Know your enemy kick his ass.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    You're possessive.

    It's normal, as long as you don't let this feeling consume you. What I mean by that is, some possessive guys become controlling, and believe if their wife just stop being who she is, dress a certain way, and more, guys would stay away. Wrong, because desperate guys will talk to just about anyone.

    In my opinion, I think you two should have fun with this, because you can't beat him up for just being overly friendly, and your wife is sweet. So make escape plans togehter for when it becomes extemely inappropriate/uncomfortable for either one of you, one person can signal for an escape, which you or her will come and make up an excuse to leave. For example:

    (Awkward guy is inappropriately touching wife at church, and wife is secretly giving you the signal for help)
    You: Wife, I just remember we have to go help your mother today, it's almost time.
    Wife: Oh no, you're right. I almost forgot.
    You: Thanks for the nice chat Mr and Mrs Dork, it was nice seeing you two."

    I know lying is wrong, but just keep it personal and short, enough that they can't pry or join you.

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    7 years ago

    yeah it is normal to get annoyed when someone else flirts with your wife in front of you.I am sure his wife hated it too. but don't freak out and beat his ass. Find a new place to go to where people are less awkward.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    It is normal. Don't let other men touch your wife.

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    You seem like a real asshole.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Does he do this with any other women or just your wife?

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  • edthenut
    7 years ago

    yeah it is normal to be annoyed mr. dork is flirting with your wife in front of you.

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