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No matter if I'm a work, talking to a family member, or making a random comment, I am always being corrected. Somehow every thing I say is somehow wrong and incorrect. It makes me feel extremely worthless and stupid. It literally makes me feel like I should die because I feel so beat down all the time.
Maybe you should ask them to stop. You don't have to be all confrontational or angry or upset while doing it. Just ask them to stop because it's annoying.
I second this. You have a right to say when someone is making you feel bad and ask them to stop.
Also, and I'm not trying to invalidate you OP, but you could have a sensitivity to stuff like this and notice it more than others, and it could also be mixed with being around jerks too.
I will tell you this about ANYTHING online: everyone thinks they're an expert and a HUGE majority of the time they aren't. Don't worry about online stuff if any of that plays into it at all.
I'm hesitant/scared to because I've done this before and it's always turned back on me. If I say "I don't feel good when you correct me so much", they'll just laugh and say "But you're always wrong!"
So it's obviously my fault. I feel extremely stupid and worthless. I can't get things correct 100% of the time, I'm not perfect, I do sometimes have trouble comprehending things, but I also feel it's unfair to be constantly corrected. It's very demoralizing. If I'm wrong, then just let me be wrong and let me figure it out myself. I'm never going to get better at comprehending things if people are always so fast to correct me. Then it just makes me depressed that I don't know and feel ashamed when people act like they're better than me just because they know.
I'm sorry to hear you feel like that. It's certainly not your fault though. You just have low self-esteem and it's hard for you to judge yourself fairly. Often it's the smartest people that think of themselves as stupid, I'm sure you're clever enough. It's no wonder you're like that though if you're constantly being demoralised like that. But you should try to work on it. Try to find a book on overcoming your low self-esteem, and really commit yourself to doing the exercises within it.
And I think you should tell your family anyway that you don't like them correcting you all the time. I doubt they'd continue if you repeatedly tell them, instead of letting them shrug you off by joking about it. A lot of people use the pretense of just having a joke in order to put others down, so make it clear that it's not funny. They won't want to look undeniably like bullies, they'll only continue if they think they can get away with it.
I know it seems like a big deal but maybe its a pet peve and you should just ask your family why they do it.
Hm, but everyone seems to do it to me, so I'm obviously the common factor. But then again, I don't understand why so many people feel the need to nit pick at things. I don't know every single thing known in the universe, but people act like "Oh you didn't know that? Well I'll explain it to you...."
Not normal, but I suppose you know what's correct for you, I think normality isn't exciting, but if I was different it never gets taken seriously, them "correcting" me into acting normal, I think it needs no correcting, normal is boring, I don't know anyone who cares about money, money buys happiness. What you call autistic of me I call "too materialistic to be autistic", autistic people aren't posh, and they don't care about money. I care about what's professional, I suppose that gets corrected, "you have charisma" they say, yes, but does anyone care?
Probably not! Nobody not even me cares about other people, I'm a very mindful person, I mind what I do very much, I take heed in it. What I think is that in being thought of as wrong you're going to be corrected, I don't know why. What I know is that I read writing and I get corrected, I thought things were going to go swell if not right, I thought my making things better really is making things better, and I thought times will go back to the good ol' days, and I thought right, in morals I never do things wrong but I'm experiencing terrible people who are enraged at the very nature I thought was nice, nobody really acts like they know me unless it's a stranger who thinks they know me, and how friendly they must be because they love talking to me.
If nobody here liked me they wouldn't be responding in kind with a reaction God knows what reason, for something that was meant to be a real, sincere and serious thing, they have a funny attitude, but beneath that layer I suppose they're correcting me. I don't get corrected very much, but I lost count of how much of the same thing I do they keep trying to correct when I keep going, as if I'm some freak acting in an unconventional way. The only thing I can correct of myself is playing music, and that corrects everything, everything else is in a universe that looks to others as if it's wrong. I don't see it, it doesn't look wrong to me, it looks to me like it's extraordinarily right.
A girl who sits on her tuffet and doesn't like to see it is that gentlewoman who behaves like a prude with a high impact of practicality, she's correcting herself, God knows whether she's putting so much of a restraint on herself, I don't think she is, I think people forgot to even like people who are nice, or like people who avoid something and therefore don't possess it, I think some people are still being eccentric, still tied into differences, it's your world of differences that mainly gets corrected, I'm not still doing that but I must be wasting my time with individuals because they can't even think of a person who isn't different in any way, even if I looked like I was copying people literally, an individual isn't going to see it although I'm pointing to it, showing the similarities, their beliefs don't allow them to think you're the same, it's their problem, and that's what gets corrected, to expand your mind to include similarities, that such a thing is possible, which is lost on you unless you learn what's ordinary, but if it's not that, then I know not why you get corrected, morals you made up yourself will very much get corrected, or maybe it's your brain, being a genius gets corrected, or maybe it's your selfishness, they won't even let you sit there and relax if you're selfish, you can create a lot of trouble. That's my advice to you, I don't think some things of you should stay the same, it should change if you wanna make things better.