Is it normal to be embarrassed for this mutual acquitance

Theres this woman in my city who is polyamorus and I know of her because mutual acquitances. She had a boyfriend before who luckily for him dumped her and he was monogamous but she convinced him to be poly. She then posted everywhere their private list of agreements of when they're allowed to fuck other people and tell each other about it and stuff. She posted it everywhere like thats not super trashy and keep in mind she has her family on social media too. She gives me weird vibes too like shes a narcissist, she has a psycho stare in many of her photos and she posts many because I guess shes in love with herself and worst part is she tries to have this very innocent, cutsey image when at the same time posting degenerate shit. She panders to the most desperate males even though shes conventionally attractive, like the extremely low hanging fruit. Obese guys with neckbeards and stuff like that because she obviously knows those men will provide lots of attention and simping. She still has all her pics with her ex up, and all over her social medias and on her instagram has highlighted at the top of her page videos of him. Even though hes deleted her and shes already posting quotes about polyamory and trying to insinuate that people who dont like polyamory are abusive and toxic probably implying her ex is ~abusive~ because he wasnt comfortable with her getting around. She posted weird shit about her ex while they were dating as well, cringy sexual memes that she copy pasted their faces into and stuff.. I get second hand embarrassment about this mutual acquitance. I hope I never come across her which is a big possibility but I hope not because she seems unhinged.

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  • SwickDinging

    Just block her and forget about it

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    • SkullsNRoses

      Exactly, I normally say “not your monkeys not your circus” but here I say “not your dumpster not your fire”.

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      • Boojum

        😄

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  • olderdude-xx

    I've operated in the poly world for much of my life. Generally its considered private who you are involved with.

    Also, outside of poly sites or poly group meetings where these kinds of rules are discussed (pro's con's, what works best for certain people, etc) these rules are generally considered fairly private.

    It is more acceptable to identify yourself publicly as poly (as I do here) then it was in my youth. But, I always found Ladies who were willing to share me with another (or other) Ladies, and I always asked up front before we had sex.

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  • Boojum

    From what you say, it seems you bear no responsibility for this woman's behaviour, and your connection to her is limited to living somewhere near her and moving in some of the same social circles. I guess you must have far more empathy than me, because I can't imagine feeling embarrassed for someone else in those circumstance.

    As long as it's all consensual, I have zero problems with someone banging literally ever single person they ever meet, and how they deal with their relationships is entirely up to them. She has the right to make choices about how she chooses to live, and the people who get involved with her do too. You have the right to steer well clear of her if those choices seem wrong to you or make you uncomfortable.

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  • primrose576239

    nothing wrong with polyamory but posting about your private rules on social media? yikes. sounds like she's not genuine about the relationship and just showing off. i can be wrong, but i wouldn't want to be associated with her either if thats the case

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    • SkullsNRoses

      This woman sounds like she needs professional help for chronic attention seeking and probably dangerous behaviour such as having unprotected sex with many strangers.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Maybe she has Histrionic personality disorder?

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    • olderdude-xx

      Many poly people have rules. In fact its really what makes a poly relationship work (poly relationships without rules virtually always fail).

      There is a time and place to talk about personal rules. There are poly sites where people do discuss their rules and the pro's and con's of various rules. Getting the rules right between people is not easy and often requires compromise

      I have never hid from this site that I am poly and have mentioned before that my wife and I have a set of written rules (which took about 3 months to develop as we considered all the various issues and our personal feelings about things).

      A select few of prescribed individuals have seen those rules as we share them with potential partners as they have to abide by some of the rules themselves.

      I do agree that outside of a site discussing these kinds of rules, or a poly group meeting discussing on these kinds of rules, that its' generally not appropriate to discuss them on public sites or to large crowds of people.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    I feel embarrassed for bisexual poly people I know. They're women in their 40's and no one wants to fuck them anymore. They sometimes complain on Facebook about how monogamous people are wrong, how monagamous people having kids is wrong, or how the world is unfair to the bisexual community. I haven't hung out with them in like, five years, so maybe I'll just remove them.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    Shes one of those where you try to just secretly have sex with hoping no one will know then she posts your picture on her facebook the next day with a heart beside it

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