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I'm a young woman and have been told many times that I'm physically attractive. But I'm cripplingly awkward. I'm not being dramatic or angsty either; my social skills just aren't good. I'm quiet and a loner. I know a lot of other attractive people, and none of them are socially awkward and shy like me. Is this normal?
well it my personally, you like the perfect match for me. cause im sorta the same. well im decent looking, and for my whole life i've been akward and geeky. but ive since been able to turn my akwardness into my own style and use it for good (well for the good of me anyway) and not evil. but i know were your coming from, when people were gushing over me, i was like "idk if i believe this" lol
Sounds normal to me!
I always used to feel so nervous in crowds of mingling people. Blushing, sweaty hands, didn't know what to do with myself, I used to think that no one wanted to talk to me and it would make me feel even more nervous.
One time after talking to someone I had randomly met (after I had... a few drinks and was able to socialize semi-normally), we talked about first impressions. Through talking she said that she had seen me at a few exhibitions before but never talked to me because I looked unapproachable.
It made me realize I was being really selfish by being so awkward. Everyone is insecure, and when you're pretty people assume that you have less issues in your life. So if you're not chatting everyone up, I guess most people assume it's because you're choosing not socialize, not that you're actually freaking out inside your head.
Funny, huh?
i never believe that anyone could have a 100% efficient communication with another person. I had your feeling before, but don't worry, social skills would build up over time, unless you give up and isolate yourself for the rest of your life!
Sometimes, i can talk to people somewhat. Im good in groups, and sometimes speak out of turn or say too much, until i catch myself and stop (not on purpose, just a bad habit).
other times, I cant talk to people at all, or immediately forget what i wanted to say.
I have been told that I am physically attractive, but I do not posses... well... no, I have social skills but I am awkward and horribly lazy ^^; I've moved around so much that I've only ever had 2-3 permanent friends in my lifetime so I just don't connect well with people because I've had to do it so many times that I am just sick of the effort.
I'm so socially akward that I can feel my own heart pounding out of my chest whenever someone approach me even if it's someone I've known for a long time. I get extremely nervous whenever people ask about my life? I am well attractive and get compliments but truth be told I have little friends and I try not to get people so close to my personal life because I'm afraid of being judge. I feel like I need a moment before I speak because of my improper English and sometimes my boyfriend corrects my English. I know better than take it personal but he's only trying to help me become better. Sometimes I tend to forget the proper grammar which makes me feel even more stupid, then I would run back in my shell and reply back a few words while holding a conversation.
I'm the same and I have moderately severe social anxiety. Maybe people don't expect it because there's a preconception that attractive people are socially confident, but being physically attractive doesn't automatically mean you feel confident or natural around people.
Hey, I stumbled upon this post after Google searching to prove to myself that I was not alone in this trait. My whole life people have seemed to be attracted to me all the way up until I opened my mouth. I would say while this isn't NORMAL, its not always bad. Sometimes its nice to be pleasantly different. :)
Yes, I think it's normal and probably quite common. Good looking people feel they are expected to be cool and socially skilled, though they may have the same human insecurities as the rest of us. Don't feel bad.
A high profile example is Mitt Romney. He's good looking, but he's incredibly awkward socially. There are plenty of good reasons to vote against him, but his awkwardness is not one of them.
Hang in there and you'll realize that people will judge you for who you really are. Relax. If you are kind and have integrity, you will be fine. Good looks are just frosting on the cake.
Thank you! And here I've been freaking out for the past 18 years thinking I was the only one!!!!!! I freaking love this sight!
Im a physically attractive guy and suffer from moderate social anxiety. So you are not alone
Yeah it's normal. I used to be like you, but I grew out of my socially awkwardness.
I was quite a late bloomer, always awkward with myself and so so selfconcsious and nervous around others, and then one day apparently i got attractive finally, and have all this attention i didnt know what to do with. but im still freaking awkward underneath it all. You get better with practice, but i find it difficult to shake my natrual reaction to be shy and reserved and uncertain. Youre def not alone! (i thought i was one of the only ones hahah)
Im the same way. Dont worry about it,its no ig deal---ut if you need money someday it could be a problem.