Is it normal to be so afraid of letting someone down you let them down?

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Specifically, I constantly have this thing with the internet where I join an online community and I make a bunch of friends (usually I do this when depressed or isolated, I'm an extrovert, so real-life activity always trumps these communities when I'm happy) but then I fall behind on keeping up with them, because.. life.

And then I am afraid of them being mad at me, and even more time passes. Or I'm just afraid of disappointing them. I don't know. So many people from so many games / websites / etc. have been like, really hurt, or they pretend like they're not upset but I can tell they are, and I feel really bad.

I'm terrible at keeping up and then I just get paralyzed and disappear from the community for ages and the longer it happens the more I want to avoid going back. Is it normal?

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  • JadedUnknown
    10 years ago

    I understand how you feel. I too, seek approval. It causes a lot of self consciousness too. It was really bad, and I couldn't even post stuff on the internet, even using anon, because I was so afraid of other people's judgements. But I realized I couldn't live like that, so I decided to not care. Don't care about it. They don't even know you. Although it feels like a loss, that is life.... so.... life.

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  • 69
    10 years ago

    first, don't get involved to begin with. second, it takes determination to make the efforts to maintain those relationships. third, lots of people do exactly what they are afraid to do and sabotage themselves. fourth, well... there is no fourth for now

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Fuck em you don't even know these online parasites!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Woah that is madness.

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