Is it normal to be so indecisive about making friends?

I have always been really down to earth and a mellow person. I like my friends the same way. Unfortunately, there's a lot of crazy people out there so I just shut myself off. It's hard to trust people these days. Some might consider me "stuck up" but I dont care because thats not the case at all. Shy people can be misunderstood for stand-off ish and I get it all the time. Some people might look at me as a loner which again isn't really the case because I choose to be alone rather than insignificant people. That is until I start feeling lonely. I might be kind of anti-social but to be honest, I love having fun, socializing, etc. So it can get lonely and I can get desperate for socializing that I just hit up any random "friend" to hang out and get out but I dont want that, I want real, consistent friends. Then when I have the chance to make those friends, the environment just reminds me why I rather be by myself. It can be the brainwashed things they say, it can be how judgmental they can be, or it could even be the responsibility of being a friend. In example, if Im ready to go eat lunch and know where I wanna go, then my friend asks if they can come with me, I'm like yeah sure but then they dont like where Im going so we have to compromise where to go, how, etc then my own plans go down the drain and Im not happy.

I know it sounds a little selfish but it is what it is. I like doing my own things and its probably because I know what I like and whats good for me, is that so wrong? I dont think so. But then as I said, sometimes I do wanna hang out and have no one to do that with because I can be picky about who I wanna hang out with. I then try to losen up but then thats where I get irritated how I have to compromise for something I don't want. Is this normal? what can I do about it? I do wanna make new real friends but I also dont wanna lose myself. I like myself and no thats not being conceited, thats just loving who you are and being okay being on your own which everyone encourages you to do so these days.