Is it normal to be stuck in a shaving paradox?

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I'm stuck in a shaving paradox. The thought of shaving or getting rid of my body hair (other than pit hair) in any way stresses me out. The reason is because I don't want "conform" to a social stigma that all women shave. I'm self conscious about my hair because of this. I don't want to get rid of it, but I also don't want to be judged for it. It's so bad that I always wear a jacket or hoodie, even though it's summer. I get extremely hot and I hate it, but I'm too much of a coward to take it off. I don't wanna be in a relationship and get to the point where I get naked and told to shave. I feel like I'd break down and cry if I got rid of my hair, but also if I was judged heavily for it. I just want to accept myself, and have others accept me. Is this normal?

P.S. Please don't bluntly tell me to get rid of it 'cause that makes me feel like crap. Advice on how to cope with this would be appreciated.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I'm not going to tell you to get rid of it, in fact I'm going to tell you the exact opposite. Anyone who really cares about your body hair, doesn't really care about you. You don't need people like that; do whatever makes you comfortable.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    You should do what makes you happy. Remove it or keep it, whichever causes you the most satisfaction.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I'd guess that the majority of women on this planet do not shave at all. There are even Western societies, like the French, who don't consider women shaving as all that important.
    Live your life as you please and ignore those who don't like it. There are plenty of guys who love hirsute women.

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  • deshikd
    8 years ago

    I understand what you're saying, I've thought about this as well. Shaving because you're self conscious about it is totally fine, it doesn't make you a conformist. That's one of the main reasons I shave. Though I do love smooth skin as well. Just remember as long as you think women aren't obligated to shave, and you support the women that don't, then you aren't a part of the problem. It's your body, so it's your choice.

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  • CDmale4fem
    8 years ago

    I think 2 biggest problems in society these days in the "moral majority" and the social stigma about anything that people dont understand or dont agree with is wrong, bad for you, sick, perverted, or any other way they choose to classify things "different" from their little life in a bubble. We as humans need to quit trying to fit everyone or everything under a label.

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  • Darkoil
    8 years ago

    If you want to look like chewbacca then that is your perogative, don't start talking a load of shit about social conformity though as you just sound like an idiot. Obviously there has to be new trend setters but going against the current just for the sake of is ridiculous.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      It's not just for the sake of it. Also, I have no beef with people who shave. I put quotes around "conform" 'cause I didn't know what word to use. Sorry if this came off the wrong way. :\

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