Is it normal to be virgin at 25

Im a woman who is virgin at 25.
I want to find someone trustworthy for a relationship.
I have gone back to tinder but so far been rejected once because he felt no spark even though we got along and he said I am pretty and sweet. I keep wondering if I have to be touchyfeely and flirt a lot for the man im dating to feel a 'spark', but that is not in my nature until much later.
Ive gone on a fair share of dates in the past and there were men who wanted to try for a relationship with me but I wasnt ready but I am ready now because this fall I turn 26.
By mid summer I want to have a serious partner.
Is this a realistic goal?

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Based on 28 votes (23 yes)
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  • GuvnorsOtherWoman

    Perfectly normal. I am much older than 25 but am still one. I am asexual though.

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    • I thought I was asexual before but I am demisexual. I think so at least!

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  • bbrown95

    I think it's normal and completely okay to be a virgin at any age. I'm almost 27 and one, myself (though I'm asexual like GuvnorsOtherWoman). It may be less common as you get older, but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. I believe that losing one's virginity is a very personal decision and should only be done if and when a person feels ready and comfortable. It's not a race, not something to be compared to others', and is also nobody's business but your own.

    Personally, I think it's best not to put too much pressure on yourself, rush anything, or set a time limit for yourself if you are looking for a quality, lasting relationship. I've seen a lot of people do this (including several friends and family members) and it has never ended well, as they've made poor decisions because they wanted to be in a relationship by a certain time frame and tried to fit a round peg into a square hole as a result. Something like this is not something you can force; it requires meeting the right person and getting to know them, which might take more time than you'd like for it to. If it's worth it to you, it's worth the extra time it may take, however.

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    • Ihidabody

      27? Jesus, you're old.

      You should be in a nursing home by now. I'm surprised you're even able to read this post with the age you are.

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      • Bobtailcatgirl

        I'm 33 I must be really old lol

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        • Ihidabody

          I feel for you.

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      • bbrown95

        🤣🤣🤣

        I'm not gonna lie, some days I feel that way!

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        • Ihidabody

          Like, I would not have guessed you were a grandma.

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  • sweetone89

    I was 30 when I lost mine.

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  • Sunshinegirl

    No it is not reasonable.
    You cannot make something like that happen by yourself because

    it is not about you, it is about you and some undetermined person You can only set a goal where you have sole charge, like your diet and exercise, or your budget. You can't make a man feel this or that or do this or that.

    What you CAN do is not put off guys who are good for you.

    And what counts as a SERIOUS relationship?

    Guys are not mind readers. You will have to have number of men in your life to choose from. And you will have to get out of you head the idea that stuff happens for him and for you at the same time as though there is some overshadowing phenomenon called THE RELATIONISHIP. It doesn't exist.
    There is you, and there is him, and there is what he does, ands there is what he does.

    If you know a guy you want, admit to yourself that you want him. There is no invisible power, What happens is because of what you DO.

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    • Im aware.
      A serious relationship to me?? Its two people being in a relationship officially and only with each other...
      There is less choices for this because many do not know what they want im aware of this.

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      • Sunshinegirl

        You don't say what you mean.
        You mean married-- or engages to be married.
        THOSE things are official.
        You are a poor communicator.
        Improving your communication skills would be a useful pursuit,

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  • farkelu

    I think it's sweet.

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  • randypete

    I lost my virginity at 13 and loved boy sex it was amazing

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  • Dream_Killer

    A woman? Who is a virigin? At 25? You are a rare gem. In today's society that isn't the norm. However there is nothing wrong with it. Would be nice if more people weren't going around humping the first thing that breathes at them but that is beside the point.

    Being on tinder is the worse place if you are looking for a serious relationship. It is mostly full of people looking for flings and hook ups.

    Knowing what it is that you want in a relationship is important to know before going on a date. Are you looking for a long term boyfriend or are you looking for a lifetime partner/husband?

    It is very possible for you to find someone who is willing to commit to you for the long haul. Do keep in mind you have to bring something to the relationship that will make that man want to commit to you and take you seriously.Once the honeymoon phase is over the real relationship begins and you get to see your partner for what they really are/ are not. If you can work through all of the mess that occurs and come out better then, Congratulations you won. (Kinda)

    Relationships are hard. Getting in one IS easy, but staying in one is another story. People in a serious committed relationship want to make it work and will work hard to achieve that goal. On the other side if it's just a casual thing once things get tough they will get going.

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  • jackstormwater

    I lost my virginity at age 25 to a girl who took the initiative shortly after she told me she was asexual. Life is weird.

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  • Bobtailcatgirl

    I'm 33 and a virgin you're perfectly normal nothing wrong with being a virgin.

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  • TonyTN2020

    Yep it's normal and i'm still one and i'm 72. But it's my fault. It's the cheese grater incident. So sad.

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  • Tinybird

    I'm a virgin at 24 also and I have never kissed and yes I am also a girl.

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    • bigbudchonger

      How do you feel about being a virgin at that age?

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      • Tinybird

        Hopeless to ever find love

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