Is it normal to be virgin at 25 years old

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I am a woman of 25 years and i've dated many different men but I have lots of anxiety constant in my brain with fear and worries of many things so I couldnt remove my cloth and have sex because of many worries like being naked or getting diseases or getting preggers because my brain never has any other thoughts.
So everytime a guy want to get serious I push him away from me.
Plus no guy want to wait a year or so to have sex. They think its waste of time what if when you do it there is no chemistry..plus I dont tell anyone anything about me because what if they dont like me so no one stays with me because they can never know me and this is problem...
Well lately ive felt very big fears of dying alone and craving human intimacy. So maybe I am becoming less fear...But what if I meets a man now and how do I tell him im a virgin if we gonna do it??What if hes little younger than me like I match with 1 guy recently on tinder 22 years old that is embarrassing if hes not virgin but I am and I am old. How to deal with this is it normal???

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  • kelili
    2 years ago

    Next time you meet someone and it seems like things are going good you should tell him that you are still a virgin and that there are things that scare you and that you have not yet worked through.
    Communication is the most important thing in a relationship. I know that I am not telling something new but I have realised this because of my failed relationship. I communicated a lot and he didn't.

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  • Billy247newaccount_35467829
    2 years ago

    Yes OP, you're normal.

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  • bbrown95
    2 years ago

    It's normal to be a virgin at that age (and I think there more than what it seems, as people don't tend to advertise it). There's certainly nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age, either.

    As for your fears, I've had many of the same ones in the past (being naked, getting diseases, becoming pregnant, being rushed when I'm not ready, and people not liking me), and they're all valid. It may be something you will overcome with time and perhaps finding someone who would like to take things slow as well, or it may be a possibility that what you want is an asexual relationship (and these do exist, though they're rarer and harder to find).

    Either way, the best thing you could do is try to learn to care less what people think, as there will always be people who don't like you in life (even for odd reasons), and it isn't worth not allowing anyone to get to know you over. If they don't like you, then the only thing you missed out on was an incompatible relationship. It will be worth it to find someone on the same page as you rather than trying to fit a round peg into a square hole.

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  • Tinybird
    2 years ago

    I'm 24 and never dated kissed had a boyfriend or had sex. And I'm also a girl.

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  • Lusty-Argonian
    2 years ago

    I'd try stuff like Christian mingle. Tell someone from the start you are waiting till marriage to have sex. While not entirely true it'll weed on the fuck boys a bit

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  • hidden.hands
    2 years ago

    I'm a 26 and had many hook ups but never a boyfriend, sometimes I wish I had one.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    The fact that you want to wait a year suggests to me that you’re not really ready for sex which at any age and for any reason is valid. You are ready if and when you are ready, there’s no age limit for your first time if you even want to have sex at all.

    You seem mostly concerned with people judging you when what you do or don’t do in the bedroom is none of their business, no mature adult actually cares about your sexual choices.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    It's not uncommon.

    I understand your desire to find a real partner who has an emotional connection with you. However, that does not take a year to find... It often develops in 3-4 months.

    I believe that you are missing out because there are guys who want someone with values and also want a real relationship first... but feel that once that develops that they should not have to wait a lot longer than that.

    I suggest that you might wish to consider changing your standards a bit to perhaps 4+ months; or perhaps a solid month past when you establish the emotional relationship you are looking for. However, its your life so put some thought into it.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    If you're gonna make a man wait a year its gonna be hard to find a good guy in this day and age. Most guys are gonna assume they will be destined for a life of boring sex if you wait that long. But yes 25 is quite old nowadays to be a virgin but religious dudes night be into jt. I was self concious about not losing my virginity until 17. 25 is old.

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