Is it normal to change your name for this reason?

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I was a victim of domestic abuse and identity theft so, I'm privately changing my name and social security number. But I now realize all the other fringe benefits of it.
1. I won't have to answer to any potential landlords why I was evicted twice in the past.
2. Even though my two criminal records are expunged, I won't ever have to worry about an employer, neighbor, etc, finding out about my past.
3. I can start fresh new doctors.
4. I can legally deny I was ever in foster care.
5. No one from my past could find me.
6. I won't ever have to admit I lived in a homeless shelter for 6 months.

I'm not the type to run from my mistakes, rather I do own up to them. But sometimes that can be tiring. I'm tired if someone offers me a job or rents me an apartment, they act like they are doing me a favor and that I have to act so grateful for their generosity.

It gets tiring, especially since I've went to therapy and completely turned my life around for the better.

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  • olderdude-xx
    1 year ago

    Your name change will be filed in the court system and will be duly recorded in all kinds of records. The Credit agencies usually find out about a name change within some months.

    You will escape none of your past from any serious search of it, and will be labeled a liar if found out. Note that many legal agreements (such as rental agreements) have a clause about providing false information. It will likely cost you a lot more than just living with your current name.

    If you wish to escape your past. Change your name and move to another country, and pay cash for everything for a while. Then start to build a new credit record in that new country using your new name. If you make no waves they will never look back and find your USA records. Of course, you need a couple years of cash to pull that off.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      I'm going to change it and I did it privately, because I'm a domestic abuse survivor, I don't have to publish it and the records are sealed. I have fairly well established credit, so I will let my creditors know of my name change. I will also update my university records so I can keep my degrees. Then, I plan to lay low for 6 months and move to another state early next year. And start fresh.

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      • ospry
        1 year ago

        Is your new name something badass like Richter Biceps?

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      • olderdude-xx
        1 year ago

        Both the credit companies and the university will share the name change. There is no hiding it.

        In my opinion you would need a court order to seal your entire past history to have a chance of pulling this off successfully, and even that would not stand up to say a Nuclear Industry job background check or other Federal level background check.

        If the FBI or other Federal agency gets involved they will know about the name change and your past.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          1 year ago

          I've actually decided not to change my name. It is so much better to just be honest if I am legally required to provide information. I am not going for a federal level job. I really hate the government. I hate the government with my whole being. Or really, any government. All they did was abuse me and lie about me and to me.

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          • olderdude-xx
            1 year ago

            In my opinion that's the best way to go about it. I'm proud of you for being willing to admit your past and work on improving things (we all have things in our past we are embarrassed about).

            You may end up working for a company that does work in or supplies materials or components to industrial plants.

            If your company gets a job in a nuclear facility, or supplies components that end up in a nuclear facility you might end up being sent to the job site in regards to information, issues, installation, training, troubleshooting, etc.

            For a short term assignment they will just escort you and not do a background check. But if you are there for a week or so they will likely wish to 'badge' you. Do not lie on the forms, tell all. Ask for extra paper if you need to list things. Be totally open and honest. You will likely get through, and if you don't then they will tell you why.

            I was one of the few engineers in a nuclear power plant that was allowed to process people into the plant and to supervise contractors. No matter how ofter I told everyone the above... there are always people who don't want to be open and honest about their past.

            A number of people did not make it through the process (and once failed you can no longer be escorted). I could not ask why, but I could ask if it was something that if they had told you about (put on the forms) they would be OK. 95% of the times I got a 'yes' to that.

            There is literally a worldwide database that covers all except Russia and associated countries. Once you are in that database as having failed. No nuclear work anywhere that uses that database. If you pass and are current. You can get unescorted access in a few hours in most of the world (to just the general areas - access to higher security areas are determined by your need to be in those areas - and your badge is coded for those areas: There are lots of locked security doors that a badge either unlocks or sets off an alarm and security officers are headed your way).

            I wish you the best...

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    Its actually nice to have a clean slate. I definitely have an issue with my past haunting me. I have to take responsibility for my mistakes. I think it adds to the accomplishment of being a productive member of society when you started not being. It shows you can overcome things.

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