Is it normal to cry when getting referred to as “it”?

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Of course I was not the one crying, but I used it/its pronouns on my brother for a whole week because he stole my food and vomited it out after. I called him a disgusting animal and spat on him for vomiting on my couch.

Then when I referred to him as it at the 5th day, he started crying and said I should stop dehumanizing him and treat him like a normal person. He was begging for forgiveness because apparently stealing a whole family meal and eating it for himself was an accident. And puking it all out too, can he not control himself?

I just replied saying maybe he is less than me and should just accept that he is not a normal human being instead of whining about it.

So.. is it normal that he cried?
(Sorry if this is a whole essay, I am just mad)

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Based on 17 votes (7 yes)
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  • rockyrocks
    1 year ago

    yes it's normal that he cried. what the FUCK is wrong with you. any sibling would have an innate urge to protect and love their brother. you're failing as a sibling. i feel so bad for your brother. it's normal to be upset at your sibling, but to essentially call them an object for days after because they upset you??? what the FUCK.

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  • Yaidin
    1 year ago

    You're his sister, grow up.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    Is he bulimic? You might have been a bit too harsh to troll him for so long, but I hate thieves. Did he deliberately vomit on your couch? He should have vomited in the toilet. If he continues to steal food someday someone will prank him with brownies laced with chocolate laxatives.

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  • ifuknowmenoudont
    1 year ago

    I understand why you may be upset, but lashing out with anger is no way to fix this problem and benefits no one. It simply irritates you further and is clearly distressing to your brother.

    Using the wrong set of pronouns for anyone is dehumanising, but it/its especially. He is a person and deserves to be treated as such regardless of one mistake. Do you realise how this will most likely affect him in the future? Have you considered that your brother may have a binge eating disorder? Perhaps you are jumping to conclusions rather than seeking a mutual solution.

    Think of it from his perspective, and tell him how you felt because he ate your food. Something along the lines of, "I know you were hungry, but I need to eat too. Please don't take my portion without asking first. How would you feel if I stole your food?" Do not phrase it in a way that is guilt-tripping, but rather so he can reflect on his actions and improve his empathy skills. I think you both need to have honest and calm communication, while learning to be more patient and empathetic.

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