Is it normal to dislike having something prayed over without your permission?

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I have my own beliefs (which I won't go into here because it's not really worth it) and happen to be going out with a Christian.

I told him a few days ago about how my brother had been kicked out of his assisted living for being verbally abusive to the staff and I had a job interview today.

He's prayed for me over both situations without me asking him to and (in my mind) without my permission.

I'm especially annoyed about him praying for my brother's situation and hoping against all hope that my brother eventually realises just how sick and evil he has been and that he receives plenty enough punishment to make him realise just how his existence has ruined my life and the lives of many others. I've asked a couple of questions about him on is it normal (You'll find them easily enough, I believe).

I know I should be grateful at how kind my boyfriend is being but I'd rather he didn't do it....

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    It's normal. I don't think that it is anything to be upset about. If prayer to a deity that is God is against your beliefs then by all accounts it shouldn't mean anything to you.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    It makes me VERY uncomfortable. I don't want to insult anyone's religion and I know they're doing what they think is best but I don't think they realise just how strange this can make an atheist feel.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Same here! I wouldn't really care if they didn't tell me about it, but I hate it when people tell me that they did or are going to pray for me. I sort of wonder if they do it because they know I'm an atheist and they're flaunting they're religion, or if they say that to everybody. It just seems really in your face.

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      • PrimevalWalrus
        7 years ago

        yeah I wonder the same thing.

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  • fletcherkydude
    11 years ago

    John 3:16

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    • BlueAlice
      11 years ago

      What does that have to do with it?

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      • robbieforgotpw
        11 years ago

        Read it you'll see

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  • Blue_Velvet
    11 years ago

    Its a possitive thing

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  • Shoefish
    10 years ago

    Oh man, I thought I was in 'newest posts'. Stupid phone. :(

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  • Shoefish
    10 years ago

    I really don't understand what the issue is, unless your boyfriend is telling you that you should pray too. I don't think he should need permission to pray for you, it doesn't make you involved in Christianity by association. If someone prayed for me I'd probably think it was nice and not give it a second thought.

    It seems you're actually worried his prayers will be heard in regards to your brother which is odd if you don't share your boyfriend's beliefs.

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  • pinhsa
    11 years ago

    In your situation, I would probably find this slightly annoying. I would appreciate that someone cared enough to do what they thought might help me though.

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  • NocturnePonyFan
    11 years ago

    Perfectly normal. I'd be offended, too! I don't want someone praying to such a hateful being (if there is one) because they pity me.

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  • theaverageatheist
    11 years ago

    totaly know how you feel it gets on my nerves

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal that you feel this way. I really don't like when christians try to pray for people's souls and so on. There's something irritating about it and it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable.

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  • bobbert
    11 years ago

    Yes it's normal I had a super hardcore christian friend pray for me when things weren't going so well, as an atheist, this annoys me. The reason why I personally don't like it is because I feel like my having prayers for me, it makes me part of being a christian, which I want NO part in. I don't support Christianity at all and don't want any involvement in it.

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    If someone prayed for me or over something, I wouldn't be able to control myself but burst out in laughter :D
    I'm even laughing just thinking about this!! Lol Ha Ha Ha
    Pray for me. HA

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    So you are angry they wished you well? Yeah you're a dick. Their is nothing wrong with them. You are just ungrateful.

    I think I am going to pray you go to hell now. If it exists or not I know we don't need people like you in the world and I wish you the worst.

    Are you happy? Perhaps the devil will grant my wish and may all the misfortune fall upon you. I guess you will yell at the store clerk too. "I don't celebrate holidays this time of year you fucking bastard! How dare you wish me a happy holiday".

    I wish more people would just accept peoples being polite and generous and not treat them like they committed an evil act. I know you might expect everyone to know, and follow what you believe and act accordingly but they don't. No one is going to follow exactly what you follow all the time and you should just get over it.

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