Is it normal to do only suddenly do this at 28?

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Hi all,

So, my question is this.

I love black women, im a white man, I have two children in a past, loving relationship, with a Zim woman, but she left me, and kidnaped our child back to South AF. I am yet to see my child, but it is going through the courts. I am now in another relationship, which another Zimbabwean woman, but, things aren't going well, I can provide, I am good, we have good times, but we always argue.

My question. Why is there resentment for the white man? Am I right for seeing black women for what they are? They aren't bad, sure, if they're not with white men, they're fine. But I think this last relationship, I was to blame for everything, and it was always an issue with things. Maybe, because I've loved black women, all my life, sexually, I haven't actually given myself a chance, culturally, to accept MYSELF as a white man, and haven't given my own race a chance of being attractive to me? Does being with your 'own people' help things in relationships? is that myth?

Am I WRONG to think this? Any of you had other experiences?

Note, I will never be racist to another race, and I AM NOT including all people of the race, I just want opinions about another race of women.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    1st rule of marrage if you are a guy (regardless of race): You (the guy) is always wrong when something does not go as your wife expected.

    Learn to say "I'm sorry" a lot...

    That simple rule helps virtually all male-female relationships.

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
    2 years ago

    I say upbringing has more to do with how people are then race. I've dated 2 White girls, 1 Hispanic girl & 1 Black girl & All of them were from different areas & home life & all of them were different in every way especially in personality. As for finding them attractive I can't say, I've never found anyone sexually attractive in my life.

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  • fatok
    2 years ago

    Black women are great a fuck.

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  • Tommythecaty
    2 years ago

    “Note, I will never be racist to another race, and I AM NOT including all people of the race, I just want opinions about another race of women”

    Quite the paradoxical statement sir.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore
    2 years ago

    I think you are just deeply hurt your child is gone and are feeling antagonistic towards black women because of it. You will find just as many white women with attitudes who will break your heart and pull bs regarding custody.

    You need to love a woman beyond her skin color.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    Damn bro she took a mixed child back to south africa? If the things I hear is true thats not good.

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  • idolomantis
    2 years ago

    To be completely honest I think a lot of it is in your head and I definitely don’t mean that in a bad way! You might have a bit of a “picker problem” in regards to women, which is why you find yourself in unsatisfactory relationships.

    There is some truth I think to getting a long better with people who are -culturally- similar to you. Personal beliefs matching up is also a major aspect of compatibility. Of course, sometimes dating outside of your race can lead to issues if anyone involved has any kind of “racial bias” that they either aren’t aware of or are too vocal about. Most people have some biases whether we like it or not, what matters is being conscious enough of them so that our belief systems don’t end up getting poisoned. Any person’s beliefs tends to inform the way that they treat others, so it’s obvious how underlying racial tension can have a negative effect on a relationship.

    I’m also really sorry about your kid and I hope that things work out for the better. I’m not a parent personally, but I can imagine that there are few things more difficult for a person than something like that. I wish you the best on that, and I hope that what I wrote might be helpful.

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