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I recently became friends with this guy that has all of the same interests as me, so we always talk. But because of this, whenever I sit with his friend group I feel like I'm hogging his attention and pushing him away from his friends. And whenever he gets up to do something, I just sit there doing nothing because his friends won't talk to me. Has anybody else been in this situation that can help me?
I'd say, if you realize it, pull back..Maybe don't take so much of his attention and be more of a sharing-type person than demanding his attention. That also leads to appearing needy. Be careful with it, but, try to engage the friends, too.
One of my long-time friends visits me fairly often. Used to visit with two other guys, who also became very good friends of mine. One trip, a guy I'd heard about for years, "Skippy", came with them, and he and I got along great. I started feeling the same way..That I was ignoring the other guys in favor of the new guy. So, I pulled back a bit with Skippy and returned to the group mentality instead of the excitement of the new guy. It worked well..