Is it normal to feel like i wasted a year?

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i graduated highschool in October of 2010. I thought I would aquire either a part-time or full-time job by January/February so that I could pay for further education to shape a career in my field of choice (filmmaking).

It has been seven months. I hardly go out (where would I go? I haven't a car), I have no friends (in highschool there were only mere aquaintecies I sat with during recess and lunch to not look like a total loser. I never cared for them.) and I just do the same thing each day (watch movies, listen to my ipod, use the computer). I usually end up going to bed at 3am and waking up past noon.

It's not that I'm depressed. I could be living alone (at least I have my family). I find it hard to meet people, even on the internet. I feel comfortable with my surroundings and without friends for the most part. I'm talkative around my brother, but not most others.

My main point is I feel unmotivated to do anything (I can't even pick up a book anymore). I just go through the motions, not achieving my only aspirations and goals. Merely being.

Next year I wan't things to be different. I want to learn photography possibly. Has anyone had similar experiences of wasting almost a year of their lives doing nothing at all?

I forgot to mention I wanted employment in retail. I can't find one fucking job in retail near me.

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  • jakeupp
    12 years ago

    It is very common for people just out of high school to waste a year or to doing nothing much

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    • MortalKombatFan1
      12 years ago

      Thanks for saying that. I feel reasurred that I'm not the only one. I applied for a different course on film-related studies for the next six months. I hear it's practical. So at least I won't have another wasted year!

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    I was in a similar situation, and felt like I entirely wasted a year. I messed up my uni choice first time round, ended up having to wait a year before applying again, and was stuck in the same boring routine, trying to get a job in retail (just like you, nothing around). Also didn't have a car. I lived with students but they all moved out and went home for the summer so I was stuck in a tiny town with barely any friends just waiting to start over and actually do something constructive.

    The good thing about university / college courses is it's the opportunity to meet new people with similar interests, and often their passion is infectious; you'll find yourself inspired and motivated (if you're on the right course) and it should help fuel your creativity and desire to achieve something.

    I really hated the times in that year being in an empty house, with nothing to do and nobody to do nothing with, chewing time and going mad. Fuck wasting another year ever again, we've only got so many right?

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  • candle8
    12 years ago

    I'm in almost the same situation as you. Filmmaking was my dream till I gratuated last year and did not get accepted in the filmmaking uni. I wanted. And now I've been wasting this entire year. I've been studying philosophy, but I hardly go to my lectures... I sleep all the time and do nothing. Not even sure what I want in my life. It's an endless loop, and I am aware that ONLY I am able to save myself. Just have to find out how...

    I'm almost sure though- Passion for life is what I need, and what you need and what most the population needs. . It must be in there or out there somewhere. search.

    good luck to you

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    • MortalKombatFan1
      12 years ago

      Thank you, and to everyone else for their insightful comments. I can't be passionate laying around home.

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  • SATC
    12 years ago

    I feel you with the reatil jobs thing they suck! Perhaps try to get something in a bar or restaurant, although it is easier here in the UK is it is legal to drink at 18 so a job in a bar is easier to obtain. You could apply for a photography course at your local college for next year. That way you will not only get the chance to meet new people but you will have the feeling that you are doing something with your life. Until then though, do try and get a job for at least a couple of hours per week, or even volunteer, it will give you could experience when applying for jobs and may also give you a purpose. Good luck.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I am from Australia, so I am legally an adult at 18. I could try bars, but that wouldn't be possible until september.

      Thanks for agreeing with me on the photography thing. I was also thinking about art as another course. I will apply for these courses if I cannot get a job by around Septemember (that's when applications open up). If I do that I will know that I have secured something for the next year.

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  • dontgiveup:)
    12 years ago

    Since you say you're on the computer, look for something online, take the bus if it's necessary! You can do anything you wish to do if you strive hard for it!!!! Go show the world what you got!

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    • MortalKombatFan1
      12 years ago

      I'll look for jobs online. Mostly I've been handing resumes in person

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Your parents must be pissed

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      They are not

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  • helenjewett
    12 years ago

    you aren't trying hard enough. that is a job out there for you. Sit your parents down and ask if they could get you a car so you can drive you work. However, you have to pull your end and ACTIVELY search. Time to start fluffing up that resume and go to the mall and personally hand them out to managers.

    Perhaps you could sign up for some community college courses about what interests you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I should have made myself clearer. I do take trains and buses everywhere. I have updated my resume three times already. My parents are divorecd and I live with my mother and brother. They both don't drive. Also, I do search for jobs. On average of 5 per week, that's 20 per month. Every place I ask in the city or in another mall I go to say they are never hiring. I did go into an interview for a fast food chain and I was accepted for a trial, but I couldn't handle the food properly (it's a long story). Don't get the wrong impression that I am never trying. I'm trying to apply for Big chain stores as well, like Kmart and Target. I said in my cover letter that I am willing to perform manual tasks like heavy lifting, have no problem working in teams or unsupervised.

      So I'm not just doing nothing about job seeking. Also, I applied for this organization that is meant to help me find work. I said that I wanted a job in retail, all they offered was a position for part time volunteer in a soup kitchen nowhere near where I live. On top of that, I have to go in there two days a week for no reason at all other than to fill out usesless forms saying which jobs I have been looking for, as if it mattered to them.

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