Is it normal to get sensitive in the ears to certain music

Ive listened to rock and punkrock and all kinds of rock for years and I am only in my 20s and I have sensitive ears to noise so I rarely blast it too loudly. Yet lately when I listen to such bands my ears hurt and then my head hurt and all the heavy bits turn into blur of noise like I can no longer process it. I feel very upset about this and cant focus on the songs because I can just feel how the guitars and drum poke the inside of my ears and cause my ears to feel blocked. Like for example if I swallow it feel like I have some cotton in my ears or they are very tense... Even if I turn the volume very low!!!! and I get overwhelmed with headache... Maybe its my speakers nowadays which are bad because for example my brother listen to the same type of music and play it in the car stereo and this doesnt happen to me then. I think my current speakers arent so bad though and the same thing happen with headphones. Please help.
I like music without heavy riffs too but sometimes I want to listen to the heavy stuff...