Is it normal to get unreasonably upset when someone tells me to quiet down?

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Like, "all joy immediately drained from the world, need to be alone for a short while to keep from having an emotional breakdown" upset. I don't know why this happens. I even know that I'm being kind of ridiculous. But it happens every single time, even if it's a perfectly reasonable situation (like if someone's sleeping nearby). I used to have depression really bad and it still lapses a bit every few months or so, so maybe that has something to do with it? (I should clarify, though, that it's specifically someone telling me to keep quiet. I can't think of anything else that gets this reaction out of me, at least not reliably.)

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    Who knows? Maybe being told that triggers feelings associated with memories of a situation or a person who was troublesome in your life? Maybe it's about a fear of not being heard, dismissed, and ignored? Maybe it prompts you to feel that people just want you to disappear, and that's because you're a worthless person?

    She's getting better, but my wife had a huge thing about me not remembering something she'd told me months before. The fact is, I forget loads of stuff all the time, but in her mind, that meant I hadn't been listening to her. That idea was painful for her, since she grew up with a mother who is borderline narcissistic and who always hears what the wants to hear, and disregards the rest.

    My point is that sometimes the reasons we react to stuff the way we do are buried way down deep. Only you can rummage around in your head and try to figure out why you respond as you do to this request.

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  • leaflights
    5 years ago

    ive had that before, i think its because i have a problem with feeling insignificant and when someone tells me to quiet down its almost like theyre saying "just stop existing". maybe it triggers the same thing for you?

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  • CozmoWank
    5 years ago

    We all have issues. It's why we're here.

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  • mc_abby
    5 years ago

    That does sound like depression. I can totally relate, I used to go deadly silent when people asked me to be quiet. I'd get so angry and then realize it was embarrassment and my face would go red and I'd think 'how stupid am I?' I usually wouldnt talk for the rest of the day.

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  • libertybell
    5 years ago

    Did they say it in a mean way? Maybe they were rude about it, or perhaps you don't like being dismissed?

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  • paracetamol
    5 years ago

    People tend to get over emotional when depressed.

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