Is it normal to get upset when friends wants to hang out

I get upset.
I panic and I think how can I control this situation ? I need to make every decision and if my friend makes one I have to make them change their mind and do what I feel like.
I feel upset thinking of cancelling the whole time. If I lived alone and didnt get judged for it by my family I would cancel almost everything last minute. I used to get really sick before hanging out too. Nausea, throwing up or whatever. It would pass after I met up with the person I was going to see and felt a little more relaxed. Now it happens to a lesser extent with just mild nausea or tension headache but I get angry. I feel angry and walk around moping to my family the whole day about how annoying my friend is for bothering me, for having the guts to interrupt my nonexistant plans, for stressing me out. And then I start feeling I am sick, I am going to get even more sick outside, everything is dangerous.... Bad feelings and anger. Walking around saying negative things and slamming things.