Is it normal to go full recluse after work?

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I suppose I'm a decently sociable person. I have my 'fair' share of outings with friends and family. But after starting my first official full time job. (Working hours from 9am to 6pm) Having to come in early at 8am and to stay back overtime till 11pm (sometimes pushing 2am the next day) mainly because of the workload, we're not forced to work OT, but knowing you've so much crap to do and you've a deadline, the extra hours helps me loads, especially if I'm getting some money out of it, even if it's absolutely peanuts.

I've become increasingly withdrawn and reclusive especially during the weekends, where I find comfort at home:

sleep, internet (my workplace provides none), hobbies.

I've since regretted working full-time as I've only been working part-time during college. I've worked part-time for a year after graduating and it was wonderful; workable.

My dilemma being that I hardly have the willpower and joy of meeting up with friends and family in real life, as it's become a chore. I hardly have time to do anything. I go back home, all I think about is the bed.

Yes, it's part of a 'working life' but jesus if this is how this is going to be for the entire year, I might as well quit before the 2-year contract is up. It's not like I'm paid overtime and the pay is fucking nothing for all the overtime and all the shit I'm doing 5 days a week.

I get physically sick just having the sheer thought of 'hanging out' even for half a day. Sick to the stomach, positively nauseous.

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The job I've taken does have experience that is valuable in which I do plan on quitting once the year is up. But little did I know I was going to spend 16-18 hours a day with a 2.5 hour commute, 5 days a week with little to no off-days. It's barely 2 months and I'm at my breaking point. I'm afraid I'll have to be 'that asshole'.

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  • Myghoul2099
    8 years ago

    do what you want untill someone stops you.

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  • DADNSCAL
    8 years ago

    First of all, they may be breaking the law if they're not paying you OT, even if you're salaried. Secondly, they're driving you into the ground, and when they burn you out, they'll get rid of you and get someone else. Bottom line: get another job; it's not worth it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Call me a pussy, but I'm not willing to lose face just yet. I really want to endure half a year, or just request switching to an easier project.

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  • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
    8 years ago

    You signed up for this experience for a reason so keep your eye on the prize. The hours you describe are exactly what you'd be doing bringing a new product to market or running you own company. Now is the time to train yourself to perform. Watch your diet. Eat healthy. meditate. get quality sleep. Use your time wisely. 2.5 hour commute is a perfect time to learn a language or invest in your education. Your social life is a distant second for a while. You'll have your moments but for now it's about building experience under pressure. You will show a potential employer you can walk the walk. So many people just talk it. Keep focused don't lose heart! If it was easy everyone would do it :))

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    • deepdankstickygoo
      8 years ago

      The squirrels have been deprived of tree nuts for weeks. They get first pickins. They are hungry for dat fresh meat. Let them pick the bones clean with their little squirrel hands.

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