Is it normal to go to gay bars for a confidence boost?

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Women almost never initiate conversation with men, so I have a hard time telling whether or not people think I'm attractive a lot of the time. I work out and dress as nicely as a can and everything, but women expect you to do all the heavy lifting, which is hard for me because I've always been a nerd, and my only form of socialization comes from coworkers and my cats. I thought I was ugly until some gay guy started talking to me, so I went to a gay bar once and more than one of them tried to talk to me. I appreciated the confidence boost, and sometimes I still go to places like this just because I like to be reminded that at least someone finds me attractive. Is it normal?

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Based on 9 votes (6 yes)
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  • harkosv
    2 years ago

    The dating scene is such bullshit for guys. Women will almost never make the first move so that responsibility falls on the guy. The problem is that if a guy makes a move and the woman is disinterested, then it's sexual harassment or otherwise creepy, inappropriate behavior that immediately affixes a red flag to you

    If you play it cautiously then women sometimes have a tendency to get fed up because you're taking too long or must not be picking up on her hints, which are damn near nonexistent

    Basically the only way to succeed in the dating game is to be able to read minds so you can preemptively dismiss those who are disinterested, taken, "out with her gal pals", otherwise you're basically fucked

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  • kelili
    2 years ago

    I guess it is.
    So many years since the last time I was in a bar.

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