Is it normal to grow apart from a best friend?

Over the past year, a close guy friend and I have grown apart.
We have been close for six years, lived in the same town but didn't attend the same high school, communicated daily and hung out a lot. We holidayed together, know eachothers families really well and have been apart of them for the same length of time.
Last year was the first year we had both lived in different places (it was our first year out of high school) and things have never been the same since.
Over the last year we had a period of not talking to each other much as we were both really busy, and reconnected properly after an argument about midway through. For some reason, since then things don't feel the same. We're always arguing which comes to no conclusion, we annoy each other in seconds and it just doesn't feel right anymore on my side. It's like I woke up one morning and nothing about our friendship felt right. So I wondered if maybe we've grown apart? I know I've definitely changed as a person due to a lot of serious things that have happened in my life over the past year which have changed me dramatically, while he has changed a little but not much.
I know with our plans in the future, we're both going to end up distant and it is starting to take its course. We've talked and talked about changing things but nothing actually does change, it's become a toxic friendship.
Is it normal to have this happen? Even when you've known each other so long and have been very close? And is there anyway to resolve it? It seems like right now we're both unhappy with the friendship, as its becomes more apparent how very different and unalike we are.

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  • Smokey1D

    Friendships get hot and cool off. Have ups and downs. Strong friendships last and sometimes even good friendships change and we move on to others. Respect he ones you've had tho. You don't have to hate, or feel rejected, because a friendship has changed.
    Toxic - well, only if you're hurting each other and that's not good.

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  • black-heart...

    it's definitely normal to grow apart from fake friends who betray you,absolutely!

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  • yjing

    yes. Is for me one of the most painful feelings.

    Life experiences drives us apart. Even the most closer friend might change a day or you yourself, and than would not be the same thing again. On the other hands real friendships are always there and you will feel the people close to you even if you are far. I live abroad since 10 yrs so I can guarantee you that especially friendships which end up when two people are phisically distant, were not real friendships. Sometimes were just the best we could get from that environment.

    ....I dont know if this might be useful for anybody but this is a technique I use in my life, I called it THE RAKE. Like raking in a farm.... there are moments I feel changed, and then I make a RAKE. I mentally check all people I am seeing and considering friends or anyway close people, and I decide if there are people who have to be left behind. I can guarantee you some people NEVER get out and many others are, and when they leave it just feels better for both.

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  • SuMaFTW

    You two are very different. Continue to explore the differences. Have you ever seen each other naked? You should. Different is good. The sooner you understand that, the sooner you will move on to the next phase in your friendship: love (or finding new friends).

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