Is it normal to hate children?
People keep saying that I'll grow to love them, but I can't. They are so loud and obnoxious that I feel overwhelmed.
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Based on 33 votes
(21 yes)
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SkullsNRoses
I’m not a fan of kids either, to the point where I’ve been called “heartless” because I don’t find them cute (I confessed this in private - obviously I always lie to parents that I think their babies are adorable.)
I’m 24 and still don’t understand the appeal, some people just don’t. I find the trick is to try and see the entertaining side to children, they say some incredibly stupid things and watching groups of young siblings fight can be like a comedy skit. Just don’t laugh in-front of their parents.
You are not alone in your struggle, other “not kiddie people” are out there.
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1WeirdGuy
When/if you have your own kids you'll probably love them and think theyre adorable. I hate kids too just not mine
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CountessDouche
I've always kinda felt the same and kept it to myself. I never disliked all children, just many of them. Some of them make me uncomfortable because I fear saying something offensive...and some of them are small, creepy little sociopaths or weird retards.
Over time, i learned to understand that they don't have a fully developed way to communicate and an understanding of how to behave. And i kinda learned how to talk to them...I guess...I just stopped talking to them in a cute voice like they were retarded and just pretended they were adult midgets. You get more amusing interactions that way.
Also, I suppose they're just miniature people. Most are ok. Some are just horrible cunts, who should be yeeted down a well.
I'm still learning how to deal with kids, but I'm much better. My brother had one. She's alright.
Omfg I ranted & went full little kid on you.
Just rambling
Hey! Hey! Hey! Look! Hey! Look what I can do
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SkullsNRoses
I do the “adult midget” approach too, you don’t want to hear me try to do a “talking to children” voice, it’s like something out of a horror film.
It does bother me how people are like “you just need to spend time with kids and you’ll like them!”, the confusion and horror on their faces when I tell them I’ve interacted with hundreds of children and still don’t is pretty funny though.
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dude_Jones
This conversation is highly valid, and certainly the "adult midget" paradigm will give a significant boost of verbal ability to two and three year olds. But you guys, kids are amazing kinesthetic learners. I demonstrated the words "and", "or" and "not" to my granddaughters when they were 18 months. They understood the concepts in less than two minutes. I've taught preschoolers the concept of mathematical infinite limits by using a toy frog on the floor. And, what about the "distributive property" in algebra? Get a roll of pennies, lay them on the floor, move them to match your verbal descriptions, and you'll have math wizards before 4 candles are on their birthday cake.
Once, I made flash cards with 14 basic words, and my kids snatched them out of my hands. They started building sentences of the floor.
Do either of you have trouble doing major auto repair without the help of a shop manual? That's because you never saw how it was done at age two and a half. I mean, fuck, lighten up. The brilliance of humanity is in the unprogrammed brains of the youngest among us. Your challenge is to learn the "essence" of youthfulness from them. It's powerful as hell.
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SkullsNRoses
I have a psychology degree, I’m well aware that the development of children’s brains is fascinating. But for me that doesn’t translate to an interest in interacting with actual children.
My interactions with them have ranged from neutral to hideously awkward, sometimes dissolving into tears from the child for no apparent reason and the fact that I don’t find them cute makes behaviours that others find endearing tedious to me. As I said, some of us are just not “kiddie people”.
I do like the idea that I can blame my lack of mechanical ability on the fact that I was improperly educated aged 2 and a half though. I’m bringing that one out at the next family argument.
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dude_Jones
Yeah, well, okay. I know my own views here are biased by my mistrust of my own comfort zone. I like to get pleasantly uncomfortable by thinking outside the box. Since pre-schoolers don't even have a box, I'll just get down on the floor and translate advance concepts into their stream-of-consciousness world of toys and games. It starts as "parallel play", but soon they're eating out of my hand.
BTW, interesting material for the family argument. It should result in blame avoidance that will bring back old memories.
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CountessDouche
People can compute that as well as they can asexuality.
What bothers me most is the fact that people treat liking children as a universal concept. 'Do you like kids?'...as if it's an all or nothing equation.
I most certainly do not like ALL kids. Some kids are cool; some go down the well.
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pastafather
I thought I was gonna have 2 throw female pastachild down the well 4 a while cuz she wasnt takin 2 the gun safety lessons as a toddler the way pastachild did, but then I remembered she will be 12 someday
No particular reason thats a important age rly. I just have a feelin she will be less annoyin by then is all
She sure looks a lot like her mom did before she got all bitchy though
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SkullsNRoses
“What is it, Lassie? Timmy’s fallen in the well? That sounds like Timmy’s problem to me, Lassie.”
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RoseIsabella
I don't know if you're a man, or woman, but one thing I know for sure is that if you're out there having sex you had better use protection!
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GuvnorsOtherWoman
Perfectly normal. I can't stand them. They are cheeky and disrespectful. I decided at the age of 8 that I didn't want them and have never wavered (although I can't have them for a multitude of reasons).
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raisinbran
The smelly little human parasites are repulsive as well as annoying. I mainly see them at Target, so I try not to shop there too often. A couple weeks ago I saw a kid standing in a shopping basket with her dirty tennis shoes. I'm 90% sure they're never cleaned.
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BleedingPain
I used to work at a summerschool program for kids entering first grade. It was a wild ride. I act like that cool uncle who breaks all the rules but tells you that Mom cant find out or we wont get to hang out any more.
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Whatintarnation
Having my own changed my outlook on kids and people in general. Although I still can lose my shit. I make more of an effort for people now.
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Jamie_Sulky
I don't get the appeal either, but once you have your own child i'm pretty sure maternal instincts will come up and you will hate them....less.
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DADNSCAL
You weren’t a child once? And everyone still has a little child in them. It sounds like you’re self-loathing.
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