Is it normal to hate the insinuation that you're a "pedo" if you want this?

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I'm sick of hearing how someone's a "Pedophile" if they want to interact with kids and be friends with them. Some people just get along better with Minors than other adults. Why is that such a bad thing? I mean, unless the adult in question is OBVIOUSLY into kids sexually and romantically, no one has the right to call them Child Predators/ Molesters. It's sickening. Let people be friends with whoever they want (even with people that'd hurt them). As long as the adult and child are not acting strangely with one another, there's NO need for suspicion. I'm not speaking for myself here but if I were to ever have any friends again, I'd want to be friends with people under 18 (Like Preteens/Middle Schoolers). Does that mean I'm AUTOMATICALLY a pedo? NO, IT DOES NOT. For one, I'm not even sexual (I'm Asexual) and Two, I don't give one rat's bumhole for romance so ANY and ALL relationships I'd have with children would be strictly PLATONIC (That is NOT PEDOPHILIA, LAST TIME I CHECKED). Some people are just Inner Children themselves so they'd interact with kids more easily (It'd make alot of sense after all) and that's nothing to be ashamed of. As I said before, as long as no one's being harmed, let things be by gones.

I'm sorry for my anger. Rant Over.

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  • Shiroyasha
    10 years ago

    I think this is mostly a cultural thing. I would say that in Europe and definitely in the US, there is an irrational fear for pedophiles. It is as if everyone was a pedophile, unless proved otherwise.

    In other cultures it is normal for guys to be friendly with little kids.

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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago

    It's still weird and creepy that you are so mentally and emotionally stunted that you prefer the company of children.

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    • Tommythecat.
      10 years ago

      Agreed.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I agree!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Yes and no. The risk of it is too much, though.

    My little brother got along with my newbour who was in his fifties, and he was definitely not a pedophile. Infact, if anything, he was the closest thing to a father figure he had. This guy was a very practical guy, and he would teach my brother things about his boats, his crossbows, how to fix things, and so on.

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  • Swan_Theif9854
    9 years ago

    I hate it when the people that try to seek help are demonized. And best of all there is no help -_-

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    Well ok I need some context here. We also need like age gap. A 18 year old with 14 year olds might just be a senior with freshmen.

    If you are a 30 year old babysitting a 7 and a 5 year old than you are not one. If you say you like dealing with kids and like taking care of children and so take a babysitting job that is not being a pedo.

    I use to hang out at my neighbors house and my parents knew them. It was an old couple and they always were very nice to us. They died though. I don't know how old you are so I cant really answer this.

    Also if you want to be friends with children it might have more to do with your developmental state not always your sexuality necessarily. Do you want sex with little kids? Since if you do than you are for sure one. I have no idea how old you are though. You might be slightly retarded. I am not saying this to be mean but people who are retarded develop to a certain age and than stop aging mentally. So you might just be stuck at a child's stage and so like children....

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Michael Jackson admitted that kids had slept in the same bed with him. If my 12yo came home and I asked were he slept last knight and he said in bed with a 40 somthin yo I would go round that dudes house and kick his ass.

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  • Royalburden
    10 years ago

    I agree with more the poster for this one. There is no harm being able to relate to children as long as you can still be responsible enough to direct them against harmful behavior. I myself spend a lot of time with my niece because I have to baby-sit her a lot due to a recent divorce. It's actually helpful to be able to relate to children in that case because it gives her a way to feel comfortable enough to talk about how things are affecting her, and also be comfortable enough around her to play and hold entertaining conversation. It's also a one up in teaching children on their level about tough or awkward life lessons because you can understand them on their level. There is really nothing wrong with being able to revert back to that, in fact it's healthy to keep at least a sliver of yourself from back when you where a kid. Chances are your kids or the kids you relate with will love your company that much more and look up to you. You just have to make sure that you also retain that responsible adult side so you can make those adult decisions as well.

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  • Hamartia
    10 years ago

    It's very difficult for men these days, with paedomania so rife. If you see a toddler fall and hurt themselves and you are the only adult close, it's a shame that it's become a consideration that you should probably leave the toddler in distress rather than approach and try to help.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    There must be something very, very wrong with you if you feel you can only relate to children. Sexual, or not, it would NOT be healthy for children to relate to someone like you. They need to relate to mentally healthy adults.
    Sorry, dude, you aren't going to get much support from me on this one.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      So people who like kids are mentally ill? With all due respect, you're sounding rather ignorant right now; perhaps a bit hysterical.

      Personally I strongly agree with OP's position; largely because I can relate from firsthand experience.

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      • thegypsysailor
        10 years ago

        Did you see the word "like" anywhere in my post?
        If an adult can ONLY RELATE to children, then yes, I think there is a problem.
        A lot of people who are not pedophiles like and work with kids. It's the ones who cannot relate with other adults that I am talking about. If that is "perhaps a bit hysterical" and "rather ignorant", well, that is your opinion, and you may voice it without criticism from me.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          I was mainly referring to this part:

          "Sexual, or not, it would NOT be healthy for children to relate to someone like you. They need to relate to mentally healthy adults."

          Now perhaps I am still simply misunderstanding your position, but from what I can gather you're sounding somewhat like a paranoid bigot. It's a mindset much like yours that's been the cause of a pain that many people these days know all too well, myself included.

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          • ThisIsImpossible
            10 years ago

            Nah, I think for once in a while I agree with Gypsy, if I was a parent I wouldnt want my kids around some dude that cant relate to being a fully developed human being.

            Sorry but, there's just something off about people like that and the last thing I would want is my kid looking up to them and trying to be like them. Make your own kids or adopt or something, dont fuck up my kids head cus you wanna be weird.

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              Your kids, your rules. Whatever.

              But you do a disservice by making certain assumptions - two, to be precise. The first being that people who relate to kids can't relate to adults at all; the second being that weird automatically equals bad.

              I really, really just wish that people would call off their dogs for a moment and see that very often their paranoia is unwarranted (and often potentially damaging to one or more parties involved).

              Weird people are people too, and hell, you just might learn something from us if you actually opened your mind for once.

              Just my two cents.

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  • gorillaphant
    10 years ago

    Adults do not befriend children, they mentor them. If you cannot see the difference, then you may want to investigate what it means to be mentally retarded.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    let them have their childhood without your influence...if you care

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  • TwoThumbs
    10 years ago

    I mean...dude...it's effing weird. Even your passion for that is bizarre.

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  • Darkoil
    10 years ago

    That's like the pedo's manifest or something.

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  • TheGodThatFailed
    10 years ago

    Pedo.

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  • 2tfx
    10 years ago

    it is better to stick with children you are related to or are friends with BOTH parents

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I think that you could try and use this in a healthy way, say become a teacher.

    Myself I can befriend people of all ages, but mostly a person has to be at least 14-15+ for me to be able to be with him/her without wanting to puke everywhere due to their immaturity.

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  • CozmoWank
    10 years ago

    "As I said before, as long as no one's being harmed, let things be by gones. "

    Does this mean you've harmed children previously?

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  • halfemptyhalffull
    10 years ago

    Did Michael Jackson come back from the dead and post this?

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