Is it normal to hate when people act friendly but talk behind someone's back?

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I hate when outgoing people act friendly to people they don't like. Like when they smile and put up a friendly front then badmouth them as soon as they're looking away. I hate that. Why bother putting up the front? Why not be indifferent to them? There's no need to be a dick to them, of course not, but there's no need to treat them well either when you're not comfortable with it.
I hate talking about people behind their backs. Usually if I do, I tell them directly what my problem with them is when the opportunity is right.
My ex is a huge example of this. She would always talk about people behind their backs. She was VERY outgoing and always smiled when talking to people. Then afterwards badmouth them cause she never actually liked them and was just putting up a front. This bothers me because on the outside she was so, so nice. Which was why I fell for her. And even so, she was always very nice towards me, stated any problems she had with me to my face and not behind my back and we had a great relationship for the most part. But with other people she was always mouthing them off when they weren't around. To this day I cannot tell if she was a total bitch or actually a nice person with some healthy dislikes.

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Based on 78 votes (62 yes)
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  • randypete
    11 years ago

    i hate two face people too

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  • EndlessSuffering
    11 years ago

    I didn't even have to read it, of course it's normal.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I didn't read the hwole thing, but the title reminded me of bridesmaids lol "Why can't you just talk behind my back like a normal person!!!" lol

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  • Antir0b0t
    11 years ago

    No, it isn't normal. EVERYONE talks shit about someone. We all do it. Who cares if she was nice to everyone? Isn't it mature to be polite? Are you 12? Why should you even care what other people think anyway? Sheesh.

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    Well, that's bitches for ya.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    i call it the dance

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Pretense.

    If it were a person I'd chase it from here to the Atlantic with a kitchen knife, laughing maniacally while I did it.

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  • AverageJo25
    11 years ago

    yea it sucks, but most of the time its a front cause shes still trying to figure herself out and understand her feelings. its still unacceptable though. set boundaries dude, force her to grow up

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  • Stazy1378
    11 years ago

    People don't just talk bad about you behind your back. They also gossip about any random thing...no matter how minuscule that you say or do...like if your house was a mess one time and they saw or you need new tires or you went out of town....really anything they can get their hands on. I personally don't think it's normal. I think it's an addiction for some...like a sickness. I know some women and a few men that as soon as you say hello to them they spill their guts about every tid bit they know including addtion info on people involved that you may not even know. It's horrible. I stay away from them. I always picture me letting something stupid slip and them chatting about it over dinner...I don't tell anyone ANYTHING and still gossip gets back to me. It seems to be extremely common in the female community.

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  • mikafor
    11 years ago

    It's normal to hate people who aren't honest with you up front. Those are the kind of people that you like (sometimes), but know you can't really trust.

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