Is it normal to hate when people say i'm suffering from asperger's syndrome

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Yes, I do have it, but to me it isn't a disease/problem because I have many good things that come from it. If someone else with Asperger's considers it a disorder, that's fine. It's their identity. But I really, really, hate when people say that I'm "suffering" from Asperger's Syndrome. I am not suffering. And when I say something about it, sometimes they go off about low-functioning autistics. What? I said NOTHING about low-functioning autistics. I think the autism spectrum is a spectrum between difference (me) and disability. I know that there are radicals who think low-functioning individuals are just "different", but I'm not a radical. And if I tell them I don't support Autism Speaks, they go off on me about the same things. The reason I don't support Autism Speaks is because they could spend their money on SUPPORT SYSTEMS and ACTUAL HELP for the disabled instead of genetic research to make sure that nobody with autism (and that would probably include high-functioning individuals) is even born! But that doesn't mean anything to "NT supremacists" who think that my identity doesn't matter.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    I booed Autism Speaks at a sporting event, once, and the woman sitting in front of me gave me a really angry look. I guess you're not supposed to boo "charities", but I refuse to clap for that shit.

    It doesn't seem like very many NTs are against Autism Speaks, and that really bothers me. I don't think that NTs need to be against them to validate autistic self advocacy or anything silly like that, but EVERYONE should be angry about what Autism Speaks does. Fuck scare mongering, fuck eugenics, and fuck abusive "therapy". Oh, and fuck anybody who sympathises with people who want to murder their children. Ugh.

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  • sahtiwaari
    11 years ago

    I have Asperger's and I don't consider it a disorder... I like to think I'm just different, and that's cool. Actually I'm quite proud of it, a lot of intelligent, important people had it

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    • BayAreaFriend
      8 years ago

      I don't have Asperger but from what I have read, I wouldn't consider it a disorder. Seems like a very positive difference. If more people had it, our world would be more enriched with talent and with less crime. I wish I have Asperger. If I had it, I would not be stuck in my crap marriage and I would have done better in school with a more satisfying career.

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    • FJK_frm_AK25
      8 years ago

      What is aspergers actually

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  • FluffieBunnie
    11 years ago

    I get you. I hate how people over diagnose EVERYTHING. Why can't you just be yourself, a "quirky human being?"

    I say that because my SO has a quirky personality. People always call him "autistic" and he says himself that if he were to go to a shrink they'd probably diagnose him with it. But, what is the point? It sort of infuriates me that people want to give themselves and others want to ascribe disorders and disabilities to them just because they are different than most people. Sure, if they cannot function in society they may need help, but those who can get along just fine, who others just think "are a little off," why do they need to have a "defective" label placed upon them? As long as they are no danger to themselves or others, why must they be labeled this way?!?! Because they are not bound by thinking the way everyone else does? Because they are more unique and individual? Because they feel and act according to how they see the world and not how others see it?

    People like you, OP, and people like you, NeuroNeptunian, are the types of people who bring beauty and innovation to society. Kudos to you for being yourselves and not allowing the masses to define you!

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    • FluffieBunnie
      11 years ago

      I want to add that I have no qualm with people who genuinely suffer distress or genuinely have their quality of life affected by their behaviors and mannerisms and desire diagnosis or treatment. Only that I have a problem with people saying someone has a problem when they feel that their mannerisms and behaviors are abnormal, when the "sufferer" has no issue with it and is not a detriment to himself or others.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I was diagnosed with it as a teen and after that, I let it become my identity. I went from being just some weird teen to a teen with Aspergers. Every quirk, every behavior, I attributed to Aspergers.

    Then, I decided not to. I decided that I was tired of Psychologists telling me who I was and I was tired of letting it define me. I accepted myself for who I was and threw away Aspergers and never looked back and I am much happier and more confident in myself than I was when I was a girl with Aspergers. Now, I'm a girl with strange habits and unique quirks.

    My point is, don't let what people say about Aspergers be a prod at your identity. You are you, you are a person who has Aspergers and nothing more. Don't vest so much of your emotional energy into what is, a diagnosis of your behaviors and thought processes. It's only an explanation of the you that you are, it's not you.

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    I am autistic but I feel just like everyone else.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I see this is an old topic but I wanted to comment.
    I have aspergers too and I also hate when people use the word "suffer"
    People who are suffering are starving or severely sick or in horrible situations.
    The reason aspergers can be disabling is because most people do not understand us which can cause problems in dealing with others.
    Yeah, it does cause me problems, mainly that I feel that I cannot relate to anyone at all, but I hate the overuse of the word "suffer".

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  • SeverusFan23
    11 years ago

    I have Asperger's and i consider it to be a disorder.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    It is a disorder. If it's not, why even bring it up?

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Because being autistic still means that someone's brain works differently, which can be an important part of their identity. Also, approaches that NTs use and suggest to cope with things don't always work with autistic people, and NTs don't always have the same problems, so it can be useful to have autistic resources and spaces that address those differences.

      (OP: tell me if I'm out of line. I don't want to talk over you or try to speak for you.)

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      • Energy
        11 years ago

        So it's still a disorder. Why get all pissed off about it? I'm sure almost everyone here has some sort of disorder.

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