Is it normal to keep a list of people you aspire to become friends with?

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Most people on the list are from various websites I've used over the years, including this one. I know it's probably a bit creepy as most of them won't know they are on the list. Some of them are people I used to be friends with but pushed away due to mental health issues that I'm trying to fix now, and I feel like making some friends would help the transition back to reality. I am mentally composing my strategy on how to get in contact with them again. IIN

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    I suppose it's marginally healthier than keeping a list of people you intend to assassinate.

    Still, it sounds like a way of avoiding developing positive relationships with people you know in real life right now.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      How do I do that?

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  • SkullsNRoses
    4 years ago

    The part about your old friends makes sense, especially about working out a strategy to try and talk to them again.

    Wanting so badly to be friends with people on random websites does sound a bit like you’re idolising these people though. It’s easy to see someone’s cultivated online persona and fall into the trap of thinking they’re wonderful and would light up your life.

    Also who’s on the list for IIN? I’m curious as to what your “type” is.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    I can see jotting down the names of people on a gift or guest list...not so much for people you want to stalk online until they become friends with you. That's, yeah...that's a little creepy.

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  • Boogienights
    4 years ago

    Depends why. If its just so you can get something or somewhere then that is social climbing and is appalling behaviour.

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  • azithromycin
    4 years ago

    Perhaps not normal.

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  • LloydAsher
    4 years ago

    I dont force friendships... at least the ones I want for mutual purposes. I have "friendships" that are more for buisness gains. Really useful if you play golf with your boss and purposefully lose.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    I personally think it sounds creepy, and stalkerish.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Not normal at all, and not a good way to go about making friends either.

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  • Wellyoudliketoknoweh
    4 years ago

    That stuff doesn’t really work out, u become friends with who you become friends with and basta. If you don’t, maybe it’s not working out or it’ll happen some other time, but that list will just put you under a lot of pressure I think:/

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    Who from here made the cut?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      No one who has commented yet, because I don't really know any of them.

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        Don’t worry I’ve arrived.

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  • Primus
    4 years ago

    The farthest you can go with this being normal is thinking “fuck I wish we hung out” when you see a cool guy. Never heard of anybody making a list of names without malicious intent.

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