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I haven't fallen in love yet. I've had "crushes," but i realised recently that it was just me picking people to like romantically. Spoilers, I did not like them romantically. All my friends are constantly talking about love and their crushes, and I feel like an outlier.
Romantic love is not as common as many people think, in fact not too long ago “marrying for love” was not the standard practice, with practicality taking pride of place.
It’s completely normal and valid to be young and not in love. You might like this song about it actually:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rtgcPWnR0ak
Falling in love is very overrated. It’s nice when it happens, but honestly if you marry for love, you’ll end up unhappy.
I kind of feel like this was me in a way in high school. I think I *thought* I liked them (and the crushes felt pretty intense at the time), but I think I really just admired them a lot and really wanted to be around them more than anything, with the addition of being under the influence of teenage hormones.
I was also under a lot of pressure at the time to date and be really interested in boys, since I had a lot of boy-crazy friends who never wanted to talk about anything else. I didn't want to feel left out, or like something was wrong with me for not feeling the same way.
It may just be that you haven't met anyone you really have those kinds of feelings for yet, or romantic love just may not be for you. I believe I'm the latter, as nothing about a romantic or sexual relationship appeals to me at all.
I also think it's very normal to have not experienced true love, and a lot of people confuse infatuation for true love and can't differentiate the two. Being in love is different from simply having a crush, which is more often than not simply infatuation.
I don't think its fully normal to never experience it, but it is okay. Haven't had those feelings for at least a few years but it doesn't make life less fulfilling
I feel the same way & a part of my was afraid that if I'd ever date someone, I wouldn't be able to love them. I haven't dated yet so I'm not sure if I actually am.