Is it normal to not post pictures of other people and to like my own company

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I sometimes read people judging others for not posting photos of friends on social media like that person must be a weirdo, possibly even a psychopath.
I am an introvert and the friends I have are online. I meet with them in person sometimes but we do not post pictures of each other, mainly because my friends happen to be guys and I don't want to give the wrong impression to people. I post random aesthetic photos, my pets and selfies or my outfits. Because I like fashion..
I got a DM on facebook last year from some random foreign dude who sent me an extremely long paragraph about this. Complete stranger. He'd seen my comment on a meme page and that had somehow lead him to stalk my social media (which he casually told me he'd been doing) and that he'd noticed I am alone in all my photos (not true if he stalked since I have photos with my exes on facebook but go off).
He proceeded to tell me I seem lonely and that he can relate to me and then for some reason he started ranting about his ex like an insane person. Apparently he felt that this was an amazing way of making friends with a complete stranger on facebook.
I never replied because I have no interest in forming new connections. I have disabled friend requests on facebook for a reason and it always annoys me that some people still cannot take a hint. I was wondering to myself though what makes me come off as lonely... I smile on most of my pictures or at least look 'normal'. Why is it considered a negative thing to not post photos of or with other people all the time? Ever since I was a small kid i've been taught being alone is the most horrible thing.

As a kid I loved and preferred playing by myself but it embarrassed my family so much that they forced me to play with other kids which resulted in bullying and the trauma of that still haunts me. All because I wasn't allowed to be an introvert and actually enjoy life. Everyone would rather torture me and turn me into an anxious depressed kid who wasn't allowed to be herself, and then say it was for my best that they forced me on the other kids.
That to this day leaves me with a very negative attitude towards other people in general. I'm not asocial or anything though. I get along with most people I meet and I am always polite and friendly. I just don't understand why everyone has to be so outgoing and social.

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  • bbrown95
    1 year ago

    I've never heard that people who don't post photos of their friends are weirdos or psychopaths. The guy who messaged you seems like a total loon and I would take anything he says with a grain of salt if I were you.

    There's also nothing wrong with enjoying your own company and going off and doing your own thing. I've always been that way too, even when I was a kid (though thankfully, my parents understood since one of them was the same way; a couple of my nutty teachers didn't though, but they were honestly the weird ones 🤣). If anything, it means you're capable of entertaining yourself, which is not a bad thing.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with being introverted and doing your own thing, and no, it is absolutely not weird to not post photos of other people on your social media. It's much weirder to judge someone based on whether or not they include photos of other people on their social media. Not to mention, social media is typically not even an accurate representation of someone's life. For me, I usually live in the moment and am not recording or taking pictures of every interaction with other people, or any time I hang with my friends. I think it's so much better that way, as it's much harder to thoroughly enjoy the moment with a phone/camera in your hands constantly. Even if you do take pictures and videos to keep the memories, it's not a must that they be posted on social media, either.

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  • Curiouskitten444
    1 year ago

    Dude sounds weird. I'd let it go. It's not you it's him lol

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  • libertybell
    1 year ago

    I am so uninterested in posting pictures of everything I do,and everywhere I go,that I don't even have a Facebook account. I have no desire at all to do that.

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