Is it normal to not want to hang around with my family?

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I just don't see the point in hanging around with them. All they do is gossip about pointless boring shit, which I just consider as the biggest waste of my time. Every second I'm with them I'm thinking of all the things I could be doing instead: reading, learning, watching a film, gaming, anything that would benefit me or that I'm interested in. My Mum just had a talk with me about how I've been spending too much time on my own and that I should come down and hang around with them more often, but I just don't enjoy that. Maybe if my family and I shared some of the same interests, but we just have nothing in common.

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  • paramore93
    5 years ago

    You should appreciate your family while you can, tomorrow they could be dead.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    To each their own.
    I wish I could spend time with my family but they're all gone.

    They say you only understand how important people are when you have lost them, I agree.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Maybe you're introverted. I'm pretty similar with my family, but lately I've been making more of an effort to be cordial.

    I know this sounds cliche, but you won't live there forever, and if you love them, perhaps later you'll regret acting like you didn't care.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Have you tried to redirect the conversation to things that interest you? You could always say you need to study in your room.

    I would find pointless idle gossip very boring too: sounds as if you're a different to them and that's normal.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    Where did you hear that families are supposed to be enjoyable?

    We don't live in some corny American 1970s family sitcom.

    If you live at home, you have to accept that your family wants to spend some time with you. That may be boring to you, but it's important to them, and so you need to grit your teeth and try to find something positive about spending time with them.

    Once you leave home, you can drive them nuts by never visiting or calling, but for now...

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  • e51pegasi
    5 years ago

    Perhaps you should be fortunate & grateful that you have a family that actually gives a shit, many don't.

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    • Boojum
      5 years ago

      You've got a point, but that's a bit harsh.

      Some families give way too much of a shit, and want to run their kids' lives forever.

      I don't know how old the OP is, but I think parents should aim for benign neglect once their kids get to the mid-teens: being there, being interested, and helping them to find their own path in life, but not clinging or trying to control them.

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      • e51pegasi
        5 years ago

        What I was getting at was that too many teenagers are bought a games console or netbook, given a wifi code & the family seldom see each other outside of mealtimes.

        Parents wanting to spend some time with their kids can only be beneficial for everyone concerned, even if certain family members fail to see it that way.

        And then of course there are the parents who simply don't care at all.

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