Is it normal to panic every time i say no to sex?

I've had years of sexual/emotional abuse dealt to me over the years to the point where I have a panic attack every time I say no to sex. It's a fear of them getting mad or ignoring me if I say no so I go through with it usually. If I do manage to say no I usually start crying or hyperventilating, sometimes both. Follow up question: How do I fix this?

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  • xxLucifer

    It's completely normal for you to feel the way that you do after being a victim of abuse. The best way I can think of to fix it is to go to a phycologist and seek therapy. You can also try to just take it slower with your relationships and explain to the person you happen to be with your situation. They should understand and respect what you are going through if they truly like you.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Thumbs up!

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    • Akiko-kokoro

      I try but it always seems I wind up in situations where they just ignore me and do what they want while i'm sleeping or just make me feel horrible so i don't say no next time. Although I am in therapy.

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  • cipro

    Take beta blockers.

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    • Akiko-kokoro

      What are those?

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      • cipro

        The beta blockers are a group of drugs. They block the physical effects of panic on the body like racing heartbeat, trembling, pins and needle sensation etc. The most commonly used beta blocker is propranolol. They are used often by people who suffer from PTSD. They are also used for stage fright by musicians, public speakers etc.

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        • Akiko-kokoro

          I'm on an anti-depressant called zoloft and it's supposed to do that. It sort of works I guess?

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          • cipro

            The antidepressants and the beta blockers are completely different drugs. The beta blockers block the effects of stress hormones adrenaline and noradrenaline on the heart and various other sites. The stress hormones are responsible for blushing, shaking, trembling etc.
            The antidepressants cannot do this.

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            • Akiko-kokoro

              I see, thanks :3

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  • Just don't say no!

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