Is it normal to reach out to ex?

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My ex/HS sweetheart and I split up over 20 years ago. She initiated it, but was a mutual decision. Growing up, growing apart, I always felt like I wasnt moving fast enough for her. Fast Fwd 20+ years later, we both married but manage to check-in on one another every few years.

is it normal to share with her that she's still important to me without being direct? I think she may feel the same way too. She's my HS sweetheart and I've always loved her, yet I/we know we can't be together(that ship sailed). I just want to share with her that she's still thought of by me – and wanting to know if she feels the same. (It's that constant unknowing feeling that won't go away)

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    2 years ago

    You're married..not okay

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  • litelander8
    2 years ago

    Meh. If I found my husband messaging a long lost love, I’d be really disappointed.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    There was a freindship there.

    Totally normal to stay in contact and follow friends over your life.

    My 1st GF in college did not work out for marriage. But, we were really compatible in other ways.

    We have been lifelong best friends since then (40+ years); although there was a period about 18 years ago when we became romantically involved again and considered marriage a 2nd time (after her 1st marriage failed); but we decided that marriage was again not the best option, and reverted back to friends. We often text and talk multiple times a week even though she is about 6 hours away now. We typically see each other a couple times or more each year.

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  • kikilizzo
    2 years ago

    Dude you're married and you obviously have feelings for this chick. Don't do it, it's just a dick move. It's normal to feel sentimental over a first love, doesn't mean you should be "friends" though.

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