Is it normal to respect your own feelings even if it makes you lonely

I have prioritized my own feelings being a person who is demisexual and never having met a man willing to accept how long it takes me to develop lust and that there are other forms of intimacy. I am a virgin for this reason and I am 27 this year. I've had relationships but I did rather let those men go regardless of how much I felt for them, because I respect my feelings. I don't want to sleep with somebody against my will. It seems like many people do sleep with people against their will to keep that person around but I could never do that. There are things I could never do in order to make someone else choose to stay with me and that has kept me single a long time. It seems many i've met has developed habits of making women do what they want, often through buying gifts and things like that, but I see through that act and find it insulting. A connection is built and tended to overtime, love is not a business where you buy someone things and get sex in return, well maybe for some people that's what it is but not for me. I don't know if nowadays it's impossible to find somebody with real values but i'm gonna wait until I do. I don't even know what is so controversial about valuing sex lower than a genuine connection and stuff like cuddling but maybe my biggest problem is i've used dating apps like tinder. I find it unlikely i'm gonna meet somebody out in the real world though seeing as I am anxious and therefore never smile or make eye contact at people, hence I am never approached. I want to be approached but I also don't because I might make a fool of myself by being anxious.