Is it normal to stay friends with someone who irritates you?

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Bit of background, I posted another topic earlier about this being the person that gets mad and avoids me for being depressed. I've been trying to cut contact but it's difficult to do so completely as I see them almost every day, and I know they'd just start shit about that. I ignore as many of their messages as possible but if I don't reply right away they start saying like "stop ignoring me" and other dramatic bs, also ringing my phone (I don't answer or acknowledge it, but wtf?). Then, they act like it wasn't a big deal.

I barely say anything to them because they are kind of a douche to me, saying rude shit but claiming they didn't know it was rude. I just ignore the dumb shit they send me because I think they may be a bit socially retarded or something, but I reply normally when they speak normally towards me. IIN?

I've also known this person a really long time, but they've kinda just recently started acting like this. Anyone else have experience with this? I'm really confused.

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    If you don't want to have contact with them, be their friend just tell them.

    "We aren't getting on anymore it's no one's fault, I wish you well but please leave me alone".

    When you see them just greet them as you would a casual acquaintance & move on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Good idea. I’m going to let them know I’m getting sick of the nasty “jokes” and don’t want to talk to them anymore.

      I think this person may be legit mentally ill though, so hopefully they don’t take it too badly

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  • MKat1322
    6 years ago

    Is it normal? Yes. But is this a healthy relationship to have? No.

    I think almost anyone here can relate to you, including myself, but it really is best to just cut ties with this person if you can. If not, just slowly drift away. Ignore few texts here and there, and only communicate with them when you have to. Be nice about it though, or you'll only upset them even more.

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  • Mehereok1
    6 years ago

    It's not easy. I've found time apart helps. That way, when you are around that person, it's in small doses. My good friend, and old college roommate is like this with me. I don't mind him visiting, but sometimes, due to his way-selfish, slam everything he doesn't understand, never tell anything about himself personality, I say no just to not have to deal with it/him. Not that we aren't great, long-time friends, but, sometimes I just can't take him and ask myself..Why am I still friends with him?

    Usually, if I say no, it's for reason. Family event, other plans, etc, but yeah..A few times I just flat-out wasn't up for dealing with him and made up stuff to tell him no.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    If they irritate you why keep them as a friend?

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  • Uniquegirl54
    5 years ago

    I had a friendship like this in the 8th grade. Turns out that the frenemy was only using me for my money because my mom and dad had a great job and they made a lot of money.

    Therefore we were never friends after 8th grade. I did see him today while I decided to go to subway with my friend. He was the worker!

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