Is it normal to still think about your ex everyday and longing to see him?

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I had this huge crush on a guy in college and then we meet after 7 years, fell madly in love. Relationship of 4 years but his family didn't let us get married so I married my best friend and very happy with him. Have a 3 yr old son too. But not even a single day passes when I don't think about my ex. I still love him and have this strong urge to see him once before I die (whenever that be). I sometimes want to beleive it's all a dream and I am still his girlfriend and not married to someone else.

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    Yes it's normal but letting go is a choice. You say you're very happy with your husband, well then let go of your ex and focus on your husband. Right now you are focusing on your ex as you haven't let him go, if you do that and decide to really put all your romantic love into your husband you won't miss your ex anymore. I think it's just the common case of the grass is greener, or wanting what you can't have. Happiness should be plenty enough and you say he was your best friend before you married well that makes the two of you a perfect match. You are being very selfish and unfair emotionally cheating on your husband. Really sit down and reflect over what you got and actually feel greatful because you sound very ungreatful for the life that you have. Your ex is just an old infatuation. It is normal to have very intense feelings for your first real love but that doesn't make them the best fit for you.

    It sounds like you have a great marriage, many people would be jealous of that and you have no idea what a marriage with your ex would be like. First of all your ex's family does not accept you, obviously, which would already complicate things and he clearly values his family's opinion which means he most likely always will, maybe resulting in him taking their side often and you feeling left out a lot.
    Exes are exes for a reason.

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  • Z3R0
    4 years ago

    They are an ex for a reason. You should take time to reflect on your life and do stuff you love doing. Do what you feel is right. Personal growth and acceptance of your past is the only way to get better and to move on as a person.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    Hmmm, that doesn't sound good for your current marriage. Maybe you should arrange to see your ex and see if he feels the same.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Family didn't let you get married? Hold up.

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