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I'm middle-aged - my dad is in a convalescent home. He doesn't know who I am and grabs me in a sexual manner when I try to hug him. Even when I'm not near him, he's still able to walk over to me. Is it normal that I no longer want to visit him (is it cruel or uncaring)?
That sounds horrible. Just remember it isn't the dad you once knew who is trying to fondle you sexually. Your dads brain is basically failing him. Alzheimers makes previously normal people do a lot of bizarre and out of character things. You most likely already know that. I wouldnt know how to handle a situation like this either. Good luck. You could always write a letter to Richard Gere asking him about it.
Its not mean or uncaring i know its hard to visit sick family members or loved ones from my mom when she was hurt hang in there
Let the staff know and maybe they can put him on a strong sedative when they know you are coming to visit.
I've heard that's common with dementia but I have no idea if there's anything you can do about it: medication maybe?