Is it normal to think i am destined to be a loser?

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I will try my hardest to make this as short and far from a life story as possible. My whole life I've been picked on. After awhile of it i just ignored but this was around 9th grade. I have great friends who understand me and treat me like family. The thing is that I really see no reason to make new friends and I really suck at first impressions. I mean I really feel that whether you want to hang out with someone is based on their first impression!

I am honest with everyone. I mean even people I barely know. I tell them facts about myself. I feel that I come off as a creep but the thing is that I barely meet people like myself. Everything in school feels like a hierarchy, as if guys have to be in a relationship to get respect or tall. I really just don't want people to think thoughts about me that are untrue. Am I destined to be a loser for the rest of my social? I mean I just want to know that because I lack social skills my life will be pathetic? Please no mean comments. By the way I am not depressed, I'm just looking for a way to contemplate the way I've been living my life the past 16 yrs.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    what's your name I'll be your friend!!:0)

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I don't need friends. Just answers. Thanks for reading my story though. I very much appreciate it :)

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  • captainawesome
    12 years ago

    Your social skills will pick up in time, but I've found that it' all about knowing how to get your mindset. If you think like a loser, you'll look like a loser. People can read you better than you think, just as you can read others. Don't just think about it, be about it. Dress the part, groom yourself, and you'll start to feel less like a loser. Your body language is probably part of the problem too, try to work on that too. You may not notice it, because alot of the things tend to be subtle, especially to yourself.

    With all this being said, don't copy someone else, b/c that will turn people away. Do what you do because you want to do it, have your own swagger, invent your own definition of cool. And keep in mind that no matter what, there will always be someone who doesn't like you... but who cares?

    Don't expect anything to happen overnight, it will take time. If you change too fast, people will notice for the worst. If you change subtly, people will pick up in a more positive manner.

    You're as much a loser as you feel like one.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I like what shuggy-chan said. People used to tease me for playing video games, reading books, and being just overall weird. They used to torture me basically, and I only had one friend who treated me like shit. So, I finally decided to twist my weirdness and make it my persona and embrace it, and people will respect you. Now I have lots of friends and most of the guys like me now (I'm a girl) because I don't have to be fake to get respect! Embrace the weird! Normal people suck!

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    The real trick is embracing ur lameness and twisting it into ur persona and ppl with start going, Oh thats just Ian again, being goofy. it worked for me and Ppl will like u for how u are, not who u try to be. so just let it all hang out...so to speak.

    =P

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  • Stern_rules
    12 years ago

    attitude

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  • thatweirdcoolkid12347
    12 years ago

    I'm a loser to

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    I'm a loser

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    • cheshiregrin
      12 years ago

      losers unite! i mean, hey, we're people too!

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  • berrytree
    12 years ago

    When you get a little older none of that shit really matters people are generally kind hopefully you dont marry some physco control bitch now put on your big boy pants and chin up.

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  • Phoenix599
    12 years ago

    People do this because they have no one else to direct to. They see you lowly and you need to show them your not. Usually if you talk to them with straight answers or show you have a sense of humor, they will stop. They might even grow to like you. Patience is the one thing you will need the most. Take your time, and wait. If you still have trouble, ask about it to an older sibling or
    a close friend.

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  • poof!gone122
    12 years ago

    If u keep thinking ur gonna be a loser, then ur not gonna make any friends. However, if u like who u are, u shouldn't give a rat's ass.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    No I'm being serious add me on fb, my last name is fowler

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    People like to talk about themselves - just as you do but few want to listen. To be sociable and welcome, all you have to do is ask them about themselves.
    Hi, how's you today?
    Aw, I'm all right.
    Are you sure? You look a bit down.
    Well, I've had a few problems.
    Come on, let me buy you a cup of coffee and we can chat.
    You wouldn't want to listen to me!
    Of course I do. Maybe I can help....

    My family are all very sociable but neither my brother, nor my son, could repeat one single problem that they've 'listened' to that day!! But they've tons of pals who share all their problems / secrets with them ;o)

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