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What is it that gives people the urge to ask someone if they are gay or not? I personally think it is no one's business besides their own.
I think how rude a question about one's sexuality is would depend upon the venue in which such a question was asked of course.
Its not rude. Its just being friendly and open.
You dont have to answer if you dont want, but its not rude to ask
Depends
It's not the very first thing you need to know about me, so yes it would be weird for you to ask if I don't know you like that.
If we've got a friendly rapport going though and you (correctly) suspect that I'm gay though then yeah, ask away I'm not shy.
It really depends how you ask. I will give two extreme cases.
1. A girl has really intense feelings for another girl and she is stressed out about it because she thinks it might be one-sided. she opens up to you about it and you say "ewwww are you a lesbian???" THAT is rude.
2. Your friend says he finally came out to his family and he is relieved that they accept him. I don't think it's rude to say "What did you come out as? Gay? Bi?" I think thats normal curiousity.
I have had people politely ask me about my sexuality and I have also had people ask me rudely. It's pretty easy to tell the difference and I dont get offended when people are just curious, especially if I mention having a crush on someone of the same sex.
Yes its rude although there are a couple of exceptions. If they are asking because they are thinking of asking you out is one.
The other is if you are flamboyant or overly butch. Under those circumstances you're putting yourself across as gay so you shouldn't take offense if someone asks.
I'm bi and no one has ever asked me what my sexuality is.
As a lesbian, I wish more people would ask me about my sexuality.. I'm v feminine and it gets tiring having to brush off guys. If they're asking in a calm and genuine manner, they probably just want to gauge your preferences. I don't see a problem with that
"Wait, are you gay?"
"NONE OF YOU BUSINESS BITCH! GET OUT OF MY LIFE!"
"I was just wondering.... There's almost no way for me to know other than by asking you, and it's something I would want to know if I were to hang out with you."
You're normal for thinking that. However I don't think that's a rude statement to ask. Sexual preferences shouldn't be anything offensive or inappropriate to talk about. And if you agree you definitely shouldn't be offended if somebody asks.
It depends for me like if a friend ask I'll answer and jt wont annoy me but if its a stranger then i find it kinda rude
I've been asked by women who are interested in me. I'm heterosexual but not at all macho, and would always choose interior decoration over ball sports, so I could see why they asked!
Normally it is very rude, yeah. There are exceptions to everything, of course, but you generally can't just ask people about their sexuality. It's a personal question regardless of if that person is straight, so it really isn't the business of the person asking most of the time.
It's a very personal question and generally not appropriate to ask. Some people aren't comfortable coming out yet and it's not a fair position to place them in.
Normally it's not rude. People are just curious. It's only rude if they decide to whine about how I should only date women. I love both men and women.