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Is it normal to think dating websites are a waste of time for a guy? I think everyone on there just wants attention and that's it.
Sometimes girls use those sites for attention, yes. But as a girl you will DROWN in attention from guys, it was exhausting at times.
Try your luck in the real world.
Exactly, this androgynous looking guy made a tinder profile as a man and got 3 matches then changed his sex to female on the app and received 476. His video isn’t really about tinder but I’ll link it anyway:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=X1oLPsj2SLU
Also welcome back to the swamp (s)aint!
I forgot where I heard this but one girl hooked up with a guy on there and spent the night at his apartment and he had to go to work in the morning and she woke up he wasnt there. She had to take a shit really bad and took a shit in his bathroom just to find it wouldnt flush. There was no plungers around and she really liked the guy so she ended up having to dig it out with paper towels and she put it in a ziplock bag and set it in his kitchen sink. She then walked out of his apartment to go get cleaning supplies out of her car and she accidentally locked herself out. So she just left and he never messaged her again
I agree. Whenever I ask a girl what her farts smell like they always stop replying. Those sites are terrible.
I met my wife on a dating website and we've been together for more than 14 years now, but my impression is that things have changed drastically in the years since then.
From what I've read in loads of places, it seems to me that if a guy is just looking for sex, then he needs to accept that he's on the wrong side of the supply and demand equation, lower his expectations and figure out how to play the meat-market game better than his male competitors. If he's looking for a real relationship, then he should accept that he needs to invest some time, effort and money in a dating website rather than wasting his time drooling over unobtainable hot women on hookup sites.
Alternatively, he could go old-school, get involved in activities where men and women with similar mindsets and interests actually meet up in real life, figure out how to at least appear to be a relatively normal, decent, friendly human being who isn't just interested in screwing, and talk to the women he meets.
Actually, these days dating sites are loaded with bots, which are used to equalize supply and demand. AI software mimics cute female behavior to keep male patrons subscribed to the dating service. Minimal human intervention keeps conversations on track with point and click input from Internet workers in India.
Face it. These guys are never going to get laid. Better to go watch a football game and wank during halftime.
If you want to get past all the people just looking for hook-ups find the few dating sites that require both men and woman to pay noticeable money to join. Several hundred dollars, or more.
Those people tend to be a lot more serious about looking for long term relationship. However, you still have scammers on them.
I bet if you got in good shape and you looked good you could get hook ups with girls often with it. Ive been married before tinder was even a thing i never got to try it.
It's a waste of time for everyone who isn't just looking for quick hookups. Sure there are the odd long lasting couple here and there who found each other on such apps, but they're the lucky few. 99% of the time i've used dating apps it's been to scroll out of boredom. If i've agreed to a date it's been out of boredom. And us women typically get flooded with messages. It's true that we are more picky, but it's because we can be lol, because the men on there aren't. Honestly it's just a bunch of BS. It's not much better to get a shitload of messages either as you start to develop a grass is always greener-type mindset. Less options means you're more willing to give those few options an honest chance and makes you more likely to meet someone it could work with.
I've stopped using dating sites and honestly, preferably, I want whomever I meet in the future to not use them either. I hate the knowledge of the person i'm texting being on those sites all the time even if they aren't texting anyone else getting messages from others. Always being distracted by that and knowing that they have other options on there. It's a toxic culture.
Shortly after the turn of the millennium, an American academic came up with a concept that has some relevance to what you say: "The Tyranny of Choice".
A trivial example: Say you're looking for something to eat for breakfast in a store and the only boxes on the shelves are one type and brand each of oatmeal, granola, corn flakes, and some highly processed crap that's 50% sugar. Most people would find it easy to make a choice. But if you're confronted with 300 different types of breakfast cereal, none of which you recognise and all in boxes that are designed to draw the eye and be visually different to the competing products, and you know that you can't entirely trust the packaging to tell the truth about the contents, that creates some degree of stress. Not only when you're making your choice, but also afterwards when eat your cereal and wonder if you could have picked something better.
Of course, it's an article of faith in modern capitalism that being free to choose exactly what you want is always a Good Thing and maybe even a human right. So we're constantly confronted with having to make choices in every single aspect of our lives, and there's always a niggling feeling at the back of our minds that we've screwed up and could have made a better choice. It's very difficult to get away from the idea that, somewhere out there, hidden in a multitude of possibilities, there's the perfect breakfast cereal for us, the perfect car for us, the perfect fuck for us, the perfect life-partner for us.
It seems to me that Voltaire summed it up very well when he said that the best is the enemy of the good. People haven't really changed at all in the 300 years since he was alive, and even back then people were wasting their time and energy constantly searching for some ideal rather than focusing on enjoying the positive aspects of what was already in their lives.
What has changed since Voltaire's time is that choices in virtually every sphere of life have proliferated, and modern capitalism relies on constantly pushing the idea that everyone deserves to have a perfect life and you can have it if only you acquire the right products.
Dating apps are just the logical extension of this into the field of sex and relationships.
Depends on the site, though I haven't used one in years. POF was the one I met my latest exe on(Left her when she wanted to move in together). But I can see that being an issue. Plus, catfishes. But I like being single, so, I'm not a good person to ask.
Tinder specifically is useless for guys unless you're incredibly attractive. (It's a hook up app disguised as a dating app.) Try your hand at Bumble. I've had success there.
I can relate to it tbh, especially dating apps those makes me feel that way too.