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Every women should be guided towards family and caring for husband and kids. Education and job for them is less important in my opinion. Cause selfish females is ticket to extinction. How many nowdays would agree w/ me?
What the...? I don't want kids. I want an education, a job, and then maybe a partner. I'd rather take care of a cat or dog, but kids is out of the question.
Imagine wanting less education for girls just because they're born as girls??
I'm a very apathetic woman who doesn't have the patience to put up with taking care of kids or most people for that matter. Putting me into a role that's has me soley caring for a husband and kids life would probably fuck every single one of them up. In other words, some people are suited for that role, and others like me just aren't. XD
I think that women should be allowed to do what they want, but certainly this modern idea of pushing them towards a professional career, and looking down on stay at home mums, doesn't help them, and with a below replacement level birth rate in most Western countries, it also doesn't help society.
Women's happiness rating has been declining since the 70s. It's called the paradox of declining female happiness. The "gains" groups like feminists have made for women have actually hurt them, since the 70s.
When you look at it objectively, it makes sense that millions of years of evolution actually mean there are differences in the sexes. I don't know if it's their "main function", but women are certainly more caring than men, and when they're pushed away from that, as we've seen over the last 50 years, it hurts them.
I agree with a lot of what you've said here. I (voluntarily) left what most would consider to be quite a well respected career in order to stay at home and raise my children. It's made me and my whole family happy, and life works well.
The amount of shit I've taken for doing this is pretty astonishing. It's almost all come from other women, but occasionally men get in there with the digs as well.
I'm not saying that others need to do this. But it's what I chose to do and I make no apologies for it.
Good on you for following what you wanted to even though you got shit for it. That's a real strong woman.
I'm curious at to what kind of shit would they say? Would they say stuff like you've thrown away your career, or that you "could have waited"?
I really think the denigration of hard-working stay at home mothers is one of the big things this society is wrong about.
To name a few;
You're antifeminist
You're part of the problem
You're ruining your own career to further your husband's
You're setting a bad example for your daughters
You're wasting your life
Your husband will leave you because you're not the career woman he married and then you will have nothing because you threw it all away.
The funny thing is that I have the sort career where I will always be employable. I would probably need to do some sort of refresher because it's quite technical and changes with new advancements, but it's one of those jobs where you are always needed. I could go back to work tomorrow if I wanted to. But I don't want to. My husband earns enough for us to live comfortably and we have plenty of savings. Once my kids are all in school and I feel the time is right I will go back to work. It's really not a big deal to me. I think some people just totally misunderstand what being a stay at home mum means.
I would hate to miss out on my kids growing up. It goes so fucking fast. They are babies for a blink of an eye. I want to enjoy it all and make the most of this time.
Bloody hell, they really are going to town on you. Fuck em, I think you're probably a stellar woman, and you'll have those memories of your babies for the rest of your life. And when you're old and need someone to talk to, you'll have loving children there. Big respect to you. for going against the grain and doing what you love
Thanks, that's nice to hear.
I agree that the denigration of the role of the house wife has caused huge problems. I'm not saying that this should be forced upon anyone, and I don't that gender has to be relevant. I simply think that once children are involved it makes a lot of sense for one half of the couple to be at home/have their primary focus be home most of the time. There is a long list of things that have to be done in order to make a happy home for the family, and earning money is an important one, but it is only one of those things. If you can afford it then it makes perfect sense for one person to be at home. It makes life less stressful for everyone. Women are the ones with the boobs so assuming that they are breastfeeding it makes much more sense for them to be at home, although this will of course be different for every family depending on things like earning potential, how baby is fed, who can best handle the physical demands of being with the children all day, who has the organisational skills to run the household etc.
I'm sick to death of people acting like women should do everything. When you give birth all of these instincts kick in to protect that child at all costs. I'm not saying that you can't satisfy those instincts and continue working if that's what you want to do, but I think that the women who want to take a break from paid employment to stay by their baby's side until the time comes for them to be independent don't deserve to be looked down on. For me there was no choice in the matter. I wouldn't have even had any children if I thought I would have to hand them over to someone else every day to raise them while my husband and I overstretched ourselves by trying to work full-time, raise the kids, keep on top of house work. It seemed pointless. Why have children if you are barely going to see them when they are little? Not to mention the fact that it costs extortionate amounts of money for someone else to look after them for you whilst you are in work. I'm very lucky that I would still bring home a decent salary after paying nursery/nanny fees, but for an awful lot of people their entire salary is spent on this. Then factor in the reality that most of these places close down over school holidays so you have to take time off work for these or pay even higher holiday rates for someone to have your kids. It makes it financially pointless. You spend more than you earn and you never see your own children. How fucking depressing.
My feminism goal is for everybody to stop telling women what to do. It's so fucking annoying. Sadly feminists are the worst for this.
I think your comment is well balanced, and I appreciate your handle as always.
I think you’re an idiot. I don’t care enough to explain but if you wanna hear then I will.
The opinions on the fanatical or the foolish mean little to me. I'm quite happy for you to keep it to yourself.
Good god. I fucking hate my family. I’m going to die young and live the life I fucking want. I’m never marrying or having kids. If you wanna say that’s more important than anything, then why don’t you hold guys to the same expectations. I think it’s unfair to say that because I just so happened to be born without a dick means I don’t deserve to live life my way and how living my life for me somehow makes me selfish. All women aren’t innately caring just like all men aren’t innately logical. Maybe society will push you to develop or fake certain traits in order to fit in, but gender does not change who you are deep down as far as dreams, desires, and purpose goes. So yeah, I’m never getting a family, I’m never getting a job, I’m never getting any of the bullshit you’re brainwashed to think will make you happy. I’ll be who I am and do what I want and die before I’m 25 having done everything I ever wanted to do. And why do you think your opinion should dictate how someone lives their life?
I think all people regardless of sex, and or gender should, in their youth, be guided toward areas of study, and expertise that best utilize the individual's innate talents, and abilities.
I think it's not your place to even begin to think you know, or could surmise what is best for young females of the primate species known as Homo Sapiens. The human race is nowhere near extinction. However, even if I were the last, young and fertile woman on planet Earth it would still be my right, and prerogative to do what is in my best interest, and if I didn't not want to procreate with any surviving males of the species it would be MY CHOICE!!!
There are countless species of life forms which have gone extinct on this planet, and we hairless apes are no more deserving of an escape from extinction than any of them. Most likely what will end humanity is not "selfish females", but a good old fashioned nuclear war, or cataclysm of epic proportions. There's nothing inherently selfish about women not wanting to conform to your archaic notions.
Lord knows if I were young again my education would be my paramount concern! Even now as a middle aged college dropout learning, and expanding my mind are infinitely more important to me than caring for other humans, especially other entitled humans!
If I were again a young woman, and interested in getting married, and having children it would still be in my best interest to make my education my top priority, because in the pursuit of a higher education I would be better able to choose a male partner of high intelligence, as well morals, values, and ethics compatible with my own. Of course I would also seek to find someone who is what I consider to be attractive. If I don't find a man attractive there would be no reason to be with him, because if I were to have children I would want to give them every possible advantage in life, and intelligence as well as physical beauty are two massively important advantages. I, and other women, do not exist to please, and be of service to random men just because I'm female.
Finally, your writing, and grammar are rather lacking, and further proof of why I cannot, and will not support your idea.
Caring and protecting is man's function. Both need to support each other.
Give women their rights to live the life the way they want.
This is 21st and life is much easier
Work with her and support her.You can see how smart and hard working they are, women's have been rocked in past and will in future.
I half agree with you, I am a woman and I think women should be encouraged to take care of their family. I don’t consider myself to be my husbands equal nor do I want to be. That doesn’t mean he’s better than me but we are different. I expect him to have the last word about things because he is the head of our household. I do however think this way by choice and I accept the fact that if I displease him I will be disciplined. None of this means I am stupid and should not be entitled to a good education. One day my situation may change and I may be on my own and have to become self supporting. If that’s the case why should I be denied the opportunity to get a good job based on my gender?
Education is a very important thing for everyone. Otherwise it would be a lot different.
I example also do not want any children.
I care that women should be able to work too if they want to and live independent to the man.
This is a sexist thought of you.
There are reasons why this kind of thing isn't anymore and why it still is in many country, and in these countries do mostly lack education and have a lot of holes anyway.
Everyone should be treated the same way and it makes a lot more sense to do so for everyones sake
I understand it when you thought it of an biological-aspect, but we live in 2019 and this does not matter anyway anymore in any way. Even if we would go back to such times when this was a thing.
It does not matter and makes no sense.
Welp bud you dont got to worry about extinction for us because of lack of mothering. We are overpopulated. If we dont cut this epidemic down we will kill off our resources soon enough and then only few will remain at wich point your idealism will probably be what happens again.
I agree to an extent. It seems like today the media and society seems to want women to prioritize career over family. I think that's dangerous for our society and its not gonna be able to sustain itself which is probably the plan anyway for population control to combat "climate change".
Man we just need to thin the herd. Fuvk fake excuses we need to drop a couple Bill's and enact limits to child birth
In America we have something called the right to liberty and the pursuit of happiness. That's kind of open to interpretation but you can't say making having children illegal is not taking away liberty.
This has actually been tried in Communist China. I know you like communism but you ought to read up on the effects of that law. They have way more men than wonen. So much so that the government had to decriminalize prostitution because so many men were dying as virgins and the common man can not find a wife or a girlfriend. The only people that get laid are the wealthy. They had to get rid of the law because it screwed up society so bad. Read up on it.
And why do you always wanna give the man so much power? If you dont want children thats cool but why do young ppl want so much government control. It blows my mind trying to comprehend how normal ppl can think thats a good idea.
It's not that at all man. I just beilive 5he world is overpopulated. Theres no good way to reduce population without ig being horrible in some aspect. I'm all for a better route that reduces humans and doesnt gives government more control.
And yes what's happening on China is truly unfortunate.
Thats dangerous ideology. It may go on with vaccines one day. They have this new technology called crispr where they can reduce populations. Theyve used it in brazil to reduce mosquitos already. What it does is it gives you a gene that you pass on to where maybe you and your kids will be fertile but your grandkids and great grandkids wont. I suspect government bureaucrats will have this used in vaccines one day if not already. Its the perfect way to depopulate without anyone knowing. Be careful what you wish for.
Dude that is beautiful! I freaking love it! Especially that it's being used on mosquitoes.
Oh that's funny forced sterility. Love it. Seems like a good compromise actually. More people will adopt that way, population wont grow maybe even decrease if played at well we could make some good big positives changes for humans! Never mind the moral implications of it. I like this idea ots clean and wraps up nicely. However I fear itll lead to the next GMO outrage or whatever they blame it on
I mean.... your half right. Biologically that's kinda the idea but we should be forcing anyone to do anything. If a woman wants a big career or education or whatever, they should face no less resistance than a man going for the same thing. Let people do what they want its 2019 geez