Is it normal to want out?

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This is going to sound like the dumbest bitch-rant but here goes. You have been warned.

I'm at university now and I'm not enjoying it that much. More often than not, I am physically and mentally exhausted, drained, freezing cold, broke, anxious, worried and irritable. I don't get much sleep. Freshman year I got a 4.0. Now my GPA is slipping, probably because I've lost interest in my major. I came to this prestigious school to get a scientific degree but now I'm uninterested. I would eventually like to be a teacher or support service provider (a guide for deafblind people.

I've already been at uni almost 2 years, would it be dumb to leave?

I'm just sick of feeling physically and mentally bad, most of the time. I feel like I'm stuck in this situation, and I'm not sure how I got here or how the hell to escape it.

In short: I want out, but how?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I wish you could trade places with those on here seeking some way to get a college education, but haven't the means.
    So fucking sad that those who have something others are desperate for, don't want what they have.

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      I ditched my degree half way through then found an alternative to get to where I wanted to be. I was similar to the OP, only my depression and anxiety had led to me failing and not having the confidence to fight through it.

      I'm not saying that's an option for everyone, but sticking to something that makes you miserable also isn't an option for many people.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        9 years ago

        If you don't mind me asking, did you know 100% that the alternative was right for you? How?

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        • charli.m
          9 years ago

          Nope was pretty lost but I couldn't cope. I was lying to my family about my classes...I'd catch the bus for an hour to get there, sit at the bus stop for an hour, then catch the bus home. Was too anxious to do assignments so I just pretended they didn't exist. It wasn't sustainable. I ended up working a year then went back to get a lesser qualification in the same field, in a more supportive environment more suited to teaching it than the university. I don't know if you have that sort of option where you are. It's a big decision only you can make. I just think he's wrong, as he so often is as he's completely out of touch with the younger generation (despite his wife...) or even reality, to be telling you what he did.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            9 years ago

            What was your general field (area) of qualification? If I'm reading this correctly, you stayed in the same field, despite leaving university? I'm in the field of biological science right now, and I think I'm interested in moving to a different field. I want to be a guide (support service provider) or teacher for the deafblind. If I did work as a guide, I would work as an independent contractor. Working independently like that would be a lot more unstable than working in a bio lab as a technician. There are hardly any programs to become a support service provider, and none of them are at my school. There's a three day program across the country that I could attend. I've been thinking about that.

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            • charli.m
              9 years ago

              I did, vut I'm a childcare worker, working as a nanny. Lesser qualification is no big deal, unless I worked in daycare, I'd earn less.

              Changing your field could be the key. I was unhappy with the way the university "taught". It just didnt work for me. If you're unhappy with your field, then I would imagine you have more options? Sounds like you've already cpnsidered some. It's not like youre going into this blindly.

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    • derpyderp
      9 years ago

      I get what you're saying but that's life.
      Just because this person has the ability & chance to do something doesn't mean they should feel they have to...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Are you saying I should want a degree that I just am not interested in?

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I'm saying others on here would give anything to have the chance you have.
        I have no advice for you. It's your life and you will have to live with your choices.

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    • theseeker
      9 years ago

      As will always be the case, one person's pain is the next person's pleasure.

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    I don't like how in our society we make it sound like you HAVE to go to school and get a higher education. That's nice and all, but it's not for everybody. If going for a higher education is something you really don't want, now you feel you're forcing yourself into something. If you're not happy or fulfilling your own best interests it's not dumb to leave. The best thing you could do for yourself is leave.

    How many more years till you get the degree? If you're close to getting it, it might be wise to just stick it out. First off, you have to find something else that you want to work towards. I don't know what your situation is, but if you want out that badly I assume you can stop going.

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    • derpyderp
      9 years ago

      That's right.
      What we should be aiming for is making ourselves happy, no matter what career or level of education it takes to get there...

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  • IzzyCat
    9 years ago

    Souds like you know what you want to do. Change your major to what your interested in doing. No point to making yourself miserable getting a degree you wont use. If your not engaged and interested in what you do then you wont finish most likely. Try a different direction before you drop out.

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  • Voray
    8 years ago

    Take a semester off.

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    I'm not gonna preach at you about "you should be grateful for having the chance to study" etc. That's about as useful as telling a child, "Eat your spinach, there's kids in Africa who would kill for that meal."

    Here's my advice to you. Study something in an area that you love and when you get a job in that field it wont even feel like work. Life's too short to waste time studying something you hate. I wish you luck.

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  • Ace09
    9 years ago

    Take a break?

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