Is it normal to want to have sex after commitment only

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I am not comfortable having sex before commitment.
The guy im dating currently has asked me to his place once and I said no. He'll probably ask again soon when we are going to decide what to do next time we see each other.
I know he really wants to hang out at his place. He's only asked once but he hints about wanting to and says things sometimes which are obvious attempts to make me feel like I want to come over and see his place. He's an introvert though so it could be that he's most comfortable at home.
I really like him and i'm attracted to him but I dont know if we are on the same page so im being careful.
If he asks me to come over to watch movies how do I put it that im only watching a movie without sounding like im not attracted to him??
He's told me he would never push me to something i'm not ready for so he seems cool but i'm not gonna assume I can agree to come over to his place and he's not expecting sex.
We have a lot of chemistry.. And to many people it's the norm to hook up while dating casually.

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  • bigbudchonger
    1 year ago

    Just tell him you enjoy his company and find him attractive but you're not ready to go further yet.

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  • ElysianGod
    1 year ago

    Just let him know that you're not ready to have sex. If hes a decent guy he will understand and not push the subject any further.

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  • Tommythecaty
    1 year ago

    “And to many people it's the norm to hook up while dating casually”

    Well yeah, otherwise it’s not really different to hanging out with a friend. Oh actually it’s exactly the same...

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  • LloydAsher
    1 year ago

    Also known as not being a whore.

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  • Grunewald
    1 year ago

    Sex is NOT an automatic thing AT ALL. Any friend who expects it of you needs to be either educated (politely) or let go.

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  • olderdude-xx
    1 year ago

    Make it clear that you just want to be friends at this point, without sex.

    It is normal for friends to hang out at each others place... just to hang out and enjoy each other's company.

    Also, most people don't have sex with most of their friends; only a select few who have passed a certain standard.

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  • Ihidabody
    1 year ago

    Here's a tip: Most guys that say they wouldn't try to push you to do anything you aren't ready for don't mean it.

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  • my_life_my_way
    1 year ago

    Many women are like that, I used to be. Men like to see that to know when to get a bit forceful and show their masculinity

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      What???

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    • LloydAsher
      1 year ago

      It is not a trait of masculinity. That's a trait of being arrogant. Works sometimes doest work most times.

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