Is it normal to wish that i had waited to have sex, after i was married.!

That is a great story! I'm Christian too and regret a lot of my past.. The meaning of bring saved is that you don't have to live in anxiety from what you've done in your past.. Sometimes it's harder to forgive yourself.. Totally normal to look back and regret though.. I actually do the same thing I regret the majority of men I've had sex with.. You just have to let it go, think of it as a blessing that you married someone who have a deep spiritual bond with and god blessed you with great sex AND you know the meaning of great sex, since your past relationships the sex wasn't great. Plus she loves and adores your daughter! What a great story!

I agree with not going back, nor ruminating on, nor reframing the past - its pointless and self denigrating.

You were young, you were active sexually - as are a lot of young people; and, you got caught. Maybe if you had your druthers, it'd be different. But what happened is not bad.

You tried to do what you thought was right in marrying it didn't work. You have a daughter. Talk about silver lining!

So why condemn your past from the standpoint of bible belt prudery? That has little to do with Christianity, which teaches love, forgiveness and acceptance.

To notanicegirl: be careful what you assume. There is a section in the Bible called "Song of Songs" where they revel in sexual, married love via oral sex and a variety of sexual positions. Anyone who says Christians can only have missionary sex is wrong. Also, while I don't entirely agree with the poster, I'm sure they would appreciate respectful comments and not inappropriate assumptions.

Praise Jesus huh?

Praise Jesus.......... Seriously? That story is absurd the reason it didn't work out with your first wife is because u weren't right together not because u had sex before

You can not go back now. Just see it as your past and move forward and enjoy your life now. Everyone makes mistakes and you have to learn from them.

Get a dog.

I think you may think this, but you now have the ability to distinguish the difference between love and lust. If you would have waited, at some point in time, you may wonder, and now you don't have to.

You cant go back.Just enjoy your life with her and dont betray her.Also teach your kids to be so,tell them about your experience

Wonderful...cheap sex is a terrible disappointment, just no one in the media has the guts to report that. Sex is business to these liberal sickos.

I am christian too..I think it's a great thing Jesus died for all sins...so the fact that you say you should have waited and I am assuming you mean waiting for your current wife and not the first, is a little harsh...if you had no sexual past you wouldnt have your beautiful little girl! remember everything happens for a reason

That is such a touching story! It's normal I feel like I should have waited too. But all that matters is your life now and how happy u r now! Jesus heals!

if u didnt have the experience with sex that you had before your marriage your sex life with your wife would not be the same. think how awful u and ur partner where when u were a virgin losing it for the first time. think of it as practice for having a great sex life with your wife. u gotta look on the good side of things cuz u cant go back and change it now

PRAISE JESUS is right. God is great. Look around, and you'll see.

its funny cuz im catholic grrrr

i really felt for you, right up until you said praise Jesus...

I dunno, can you look your daughter in the eye and say "I wish I hadn't had you."? Did you ever stop to think that the reason sex is good now is because you're older and have more experienced? If you saved yourself for this chick it could be just as bad AND you'd never know it because you'd have nothing to compare it to. You also wouldn't have your daughter. Praise Jesus, you had the opportunity to go around and ring up some experience before meeting Ms. Right! Count yourself lucky!

I used to wish that too. I just have to learn from anything I thought of as mistakes and realize that I have found that one person I want to be with the rest of my life :)

@ Runner girl, the name says it all I am not here to be polite or appropriate, and I must have hit a nerve because I have not heard a peep out of the original poster. So save your chastising for some that cares.

When you get saved you began a new lif and you were a virgin!!!!! I am a Christian too I am baptist!!!!!

Mate, thats awesome. Im happy for you, but if you havent had done all that stuff would you be where you are today? Everything happens for a reason.. :)

Thats amazing! Congratz!

If you had gone back, then you never would have married your first wife and in turn had your daughter, and if you hadn't married your first wife then you never would have met the guy who introduced you to your current wife. Everything happens for a reason...

OMG how I LOVE this stupid Fudie rhetorical BS *rubs hands together happily* now lets dig in !
the sex really wasn't that good and you feel bad about now. Did you ejaculate? Ok then it was good sex and you enjoyed it at the time. But now that you have found Jesus-Ah you know that the sex was sinful and wrong. WHATEVER- like I said before you- came... you had a kid and got married for the wrong reasons and were probably too young or uninformed to make it work but now you found Jesus-ah and have a new wife that you enjoy divine missionary position sex with. Because sex is for PRO-creation not recreations so no oral or anal fun which is why all you fire and brimstone clowns condemn homosexuality because no offspring are possible from the union. But anyway back to the divine sex you tell yourself things like God gave humans the ability to achieve orgasm to bring man and wife closer and strengthen their holy loving bond blah..blah..blah.. you people are all the same and none of you are smart