Is it normal to wonder if i should marry him??

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So this shouldn't be a is it normal question it's an is-it-right-question. If this makes sense. Um me, a muslim woman, I want to marry this guy and well he is christian. We both aren't religious but I don't want to do something wrong and my religion says that if I want to marry him he has to convert to islam. I think this is not okay cause I really don't want to force him or something like that I believe it's everyones own choice so I will be a muslim forever and he will be a christian forever and we are gonna marry so what's the problem?? Can't I? I'm not doing anything wrong against my religion right? We will just marry! I'll stay true to my religion and he will do the same. And if we have children someday he/she can choose a religion. So any advice or something? I don't want to do something wrong cause I still respect my religion.

^ I sound so serious haha oh god I'm just confused thanks.

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  • tia123
    11 years ago

    Hmm.... I'm a Muslim,and I don't want to discuss the details of Islam,as you must already know them.
    Just to answer your question,you cannot marry a man from another Religion,according to Islam. If you don't follow the other rules then why you worrying about this one?
    All I can tell you is that read the Quran,just once... With translation,let your heart decide,or Just pray to ALLAH,he always listens.
    This life will finish in 15-20 years,we'r all gona die,no one lives for forever. Then wether we'r Muslim,Hindu,christian,we will all have to go forward and tell what we did in the short lives that were gifted to us.
    Did we waste our life drinking,partying or did we use out life in a good way,follow Allah's path and do good deeds.
    The decision is all yours.
    If not much,just read the translation of the few versus from the beginning. You can do it online. I hope I didn't hurt you. May Allah show us all the right path.(Ameen)

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    • wisdomseeker
      10 years ago

      may Allah bless you

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    Honestly, if you're not that religious, I don't really see what the big deal is if you marry a non-Muslim or not- if you want to marry him, then marry him. But then again, I barely have any knowledge on Islam, so what I say is probably, you know, that not great or helpful.

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  • flax
    11 years ago

    Sweetheart if you want to marry him then your religion shouldn't hold you back. I have Muslim friends who drink, have tattoos, smoke, eat pork almost daily. Being a Muslim should be a private thing and not determined by what you do on the outside. And if part of that means marrying a Christian man then do it.

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    • nandemonai
      11 years ago

      haha ya i mean i'm not really religious i drink and have tattoos too...but i would never eat pork haha but yes i mean i will marry him anyway soo..

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      • PalestinianGuy
        11 years ago

        You're not religious at all, The foundation of a Muslim life are The Five Pillars of Islam, you said that you drink, which means you don't pray.

        But to answer your question, if you love the guy marry him.

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        • nandemonai
          11 years ago

          I do pray to allah but I don't wear a headscarf and I only pray when I go to sleep. I'm still a muslim though my parents aren't religious too they drink and have tattoos but they still want me to marry a muslim guy I don't get it. And anyway many muslim people drink and do stuff which is wrong in our religion.

          Oh thank and youuuu :) I'll marry him for sure! :)

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        • PalestinianGuy
          11 years ago

          Btw, I know it's hard for Muslims to live in non-Muslim countries, so I'm not judging you at all, I wish you the happiest life ever :)

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      • flax
        11 years ago

        I'm just trying to demonstrate that you can still be a Muslim in your heart even if you do marry a Christian. It's only a faith system. Think of it like this; if you weren't a Muslim would you still marry him? Hope it all goes well for you and good luck!

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        • nandemonai
          11 years ago

          Yes, that's what I think too and of course I would still marry him. Thank you. <3

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  • Skateboardislame
    11 years ago

    From the islamic studies I was brought up with, I can tell you that in islam, only muslim men are allowed to marry christian/jewish women. It cannot work the other way around (muslim women marrying christian/jewish men) as traditional islam is largely patriarchal.

    But hey, I'm not a muslim anymore and all of my muslim friends are liberal so my advice is do whatever makes you happy and marry the guy.

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  • mindvomit
    11 years ago

    I've seen other people (via real life and t.v.) that deal with this same issue. Personally I dont see the big deal, if you too and respect each other and each others religon. Any children cn just be exposed to both cultures and grow up more cultured and open as a result/ It might cause strife or confusing at time, but i never see it being a big deal, unless one of your families strongly disaprove, but maybe it be a good thing to start a family away from closed-mind, and spitefulness like that.

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